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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 393159" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I come from another perspective because I've talked a lot to my own kids who didn't like husband (stepdad). They are grown now. It is very hard for any kid to adjust to a new honey in the parent's life. They don't like that mom and dad are not together, let alone sleeping with somebody else and maybe having babies with him...in your case, your k ids live with their dad, not them. I deliberately found a man with no kids, and it was still very hard. My kids did not accept him or his authority until he totally backed off and, of course, years later, now that they matured, everyone does get along. Although she sounds spoiled and entitled, stepdaughter's life has been a mess...divorce does that to kids...it did it to MY kids so I've seen it. My daughter took drugs and I am sure it was partly due to being split between two different parents. That never feels that secure. If is even more confusing if ex is demeaning you (which I also think is common), but it confuses the kids even more. </p><p></p><p>I don't have any answers, but I do send my empathy because we lived through it. I wish I had magic words of wisdom, except "this too shall pass." And it probably will. But it may take a long time.As unbelievable as it sounds right now, the two of you may actually get along well when she grows up. My most resistant child to my husband is now his biggest cheerleader. Often he compares him favorably to his own father. So give it time and don't get upset.. Like you said, it won't change anything and it's not worth the grief.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 393159, member: 1550"] I come from another perspective because I've talked a lot to my own kids who didn't like husband (stepdad). They are grown now. It is very hard for any kid to adjust to a new honey in the parent's life. They don't like that mom and dad are not together, let alone sleeping with somebody else and maybe having babies with him...in your case, your k ids live with their dad, not them. I deliberately found a man with no kids, and it was still very hard. My kids did not accept him or his authority until he totally backed off and, of course, years later, now that they matured, everyone does get along. Although she sounds spoiled and entitled, stepdaughter's life has been a mess...divorce does that to kids...it did it to MY kids so I've seen it. My daughter took drugs and I am sure it was partly due to being split between two different parents. That never feels that secure. If is even more confusing if ex is demeaning you (which I also think is common), but it confuses the kids even more. I don't have any answers, but I do send my empathy because we lived through it. I wish I had magic words of wisdom, except "this too shall pass." And it probably will. But it may take a long time.As unbelievable as it sounds right now, the two of you may actually get along well when she grows up. My most resistant child to my husband is now his biggest cheerleader. Often he compares him favorably to his own father. So give it time and don't get upset.. Like you said, it won't change anything and it's not worth the grief. [/QUOTE]
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