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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 487860" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/hugs.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":hugs:" title="hugs :hugs:" data-shortname=":hugs:" /></p><p></p><p>Welcome... I know only too well how this can feel. My stepdaughter is also 16, we had the issues with drugs and sex (and other things).</p><p></p><p>The single biggest thing that got us to where we are now - that being, Onyxx is in residential treatment - was my husband finally, FINALLY caught up to the chapter I was reading... And now he's on the same page. Our marriage is doing much better, we're able to parent Jett more effectively, and we can handle Onyxx's issues before they arise instead of always being in crisis mode.</p><p></p><p>One thing I had to do was STOP doing ANYTHING for Onyxx. I made husband take over. Both kids, actually, for a while, except in emergency... Her being arrested didn't hurt. I explained it to him - she and I don't get along, don't make us BE together. And she began treating him the way she'd treated me. The final straw was accusing her cousin of inappropriate touching (her story changed several times)... Then running away.</p><p></p><p>Now all that said... There is NO reason for your husband to call you names. One thing <em>my</em> husband pointed out was I didn't seem to say anything positive about Onyxx (I couldn't find a darned thing positive to SAY, she kept stealing and destroying stuff). So every time she did ANYTHING nice I told him. (IOW, wow, she did her own laundry? Put a dish in the sink instead of hiding it? Yeah, like that.) Then HIS stuff started disappearing...</p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/hugs.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":hugs:" title="hugs :hugs:" data-shortname=":hugs:" /> It's not so easy, but honestly, you are in the same boat I am - NO LEGAL RIGHTS. What it comes down to is, if you have to protect your son, DO IT.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 487860, member: 6705"] :hugs: Welcome... I know only too well how this can feel. My stepdaughter is also 16, we had the issues with drugs and sex (and other things). The single biggest thing that got us to where we are now - that being, Onyxx is in residential treatment - was my husband finally, FINALLY caught up to the chapter I was reading... And now he's on the same page. Our marriage is doing much better, we're able to parent Jett more effectively, and we can handle Onyxx's issues before they arise instead of always being in crisis mode. One thing I had to do was STOP doing ANYTHING for Onyxx. I made husband take over. Both kids, actually, for a while, except in emergency... Her being arrested didn't hurt. I explained it to him - she and I don't get along, don't make us BE together. And she began treating him the way she'd treated me. The final straw was accusing her cousin of inappropriate touching (her story changed several times)... Then running away. Now all that said... There is NO reason for your husband to call you names. One thing [I]my[/I] husband pointed out was I didn't seem to say anything positive about Onyxx (I couldn't find a darned thing positive to SAY, she kept stealing and destroying stuff). So every time she did ANYTHING nice I told him. (IOW, wow, she did her own laundry? Put a dish in the sink instead of hiding it? Yeah, like that.) Then HIS stuff started disappearing... :hugs: It's not so easy, but honestly, you are in the same boat I am - NO LEGAL RIGHTS. What it comes down to is, if you have to protect your son, DO IT. [/QUOTE]
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