I'm going to try and explain this in a way that makes sense...
This is my extended family involving:
F - 73 yr old male alcoholic
M - His wife, 60s, mentally unstable
J - 17 yr old female, major difficult child
Long story short, F and M are J's grandparents and legal guardians. J is a difficult child in a big way - parties, runs around, has boyfriends over all the time, basically does what she wants when she wants. M doesn't like to "parent" her. F gets upset at both of them and retreats to the basement to drink.
F and M decided to separate. M moved out. J stayed with F.
J has been continuing her rotten behaviors.
Today, I received a call from M: J says that F got really drunk and made some sexually explicit comments to J...basically suggesting the two of them have sex.
F admits to talking to J about sex....but claims it was in a cautionary way about not having any more boyfriends over.
M wants to get J some therapy over the incident....but doesn't want to report the incident to police. M is worried that F will go to jail.
My head is still spinning over all of this. On the one hand, J is a difficult child and may very well be lying about the whole thing. M is always a little "off"...so everything she says should be taken with a grain of salt. on the other hand, F is an alcoholic who gets really out of control when drunk. I feel like the scenario is entirely possible.
Do they really send people to jail for making inappropriate comments to 17 year old girls?
And why, o why - would you leave a 17 year old girl to live with a 73 year old alcoholic?????
And how did these two get legal custody anyway???
And now what do we do with J, F and M?
If you were able to sort this all out and have any insight, i would really appreciate it...
This is my extended family involving:
F - 73 yr old male alcoholic
M - His wife, 60s, mentally unstable
J - 17 yr old female, major difficult child
Long story short, F and M are J's grandparents and legal guardians. J is a difficult child in a big way - parties, runs around, has boyfriends over all the time, basically does what she wants when she wants. M doesn't like to "parent" her. F gets upset at both of them and retreats to the basement to drink.
F and M decided to separate. M moved out. J stayed with F.
J has been continuing her rotten behaviors.
Today, I received a call from M: J says that F got really drunk and made some sexually explicit comments to J...basically suggesting the two of them have sex.
F admits to talking to J about sex....but claims it was in a cautionary way about not having any more boyfriends over.
M wants to get J some therapy over the incident....but doesn't want to report the incident to police. M is worried that F will go to jail.
My head is still spinning over all of this. On the one hand, J is a difficult child and may very well be lying about the whole thing. M is always a little "off"...so everything she says should be taken with a grain of salt. on the other hand, F is an alcoholic who gets really out of control when drunk. I feel like the scenario is entirely possible.
Do they really send people to jail for making inappropriate comments to 17 year old girls?
And why, o why - would you leave a 17 year old girl to live with a 73 year old alcoholic?????
And how did these two get legal custody anyway???
And now what do we do with J, F and M?
If you were able to sort this all out and have any insight, i would really appreciate it...