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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 308596" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>WOW I had to read that twice because I thought at first you said the cat boxes were totes and were cramed full and he would only let you open them 12" max. I kept thinking "THE BRUCE." What about the Bruce?" </p><p> </p><p>(trying to help you with a little humor there because well - there is just nuttin' funny going on in the Susie* house right now) </p><p> </p><p>I battle with DF EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. about his depression. Now if we are talking? It's not HIS DEPRESSION. It's got to be Seasonally afflicted disorder - or like GCV Mom said - "outside" stressers causing him to be stressed that can be helped temporarily with a little assistance. </p><p> </p><p>Makes you want to scream - TAKE A PILL already. But as someone who did NOT want to accept "depression" lables - I digress. I was just really, really sad because of my lifes happenings and did not need medication. </p><p> </p><p>I would fix EVERYTHING in time...just give me time. JUST needed a break. Just a change - one single thing to change, go right, go my way, happen for ME, back off - help out, take care of me for a change instead of me take care of everyone else. </p><p> </p><p>At some point - I think you realize that you are there and you want to fix yourself but you don't. It's like teetering on the brink of pity party and sanity. Could go either way. What if thoughts. I think at some point DF may have even crushed up an extra Zoloft a day to boost my mood. </p><p> </p><p>The thing that helped me the most when I got like that? A forgetting day. A day where I forgot I was a Mom, had bills, had worries- and just did something stupid and fun...and didn't cost much money - or any money - but I got out of the house - into the sun....around people....and did something for someone else besides me. I WAS NEEDED. </p><p> </p><p>When we work - we are NEEDED - daily. When we stop working? We arent needed. When we feel we aren't needed? We feel like we don't exist - and maybe trying to adapt to YOUR world (stay at home mom) which makes YOU feel needed - does NOT make HIM feel very needed at all. I think if he's not going to work-----he should get the Heck out of the house - and go volunteer - somewhere...Maybe it will help him connect with people that NEED Him....Not making money - well - is he making any sitting at home making his family miserable? Nope....</p><p>At least if he's out in the world - he's around PEOPLE - and there is a chance someone could see him - maybe discover a talent and you never know - cards get exchanged....and BAM....new job. </p><p> </p><p>You asked for ideas - Short of putting Lexapro in his coffee - I think he needs a call from some organization - <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> that NEEDS HIM....and then you and JESS can GET to the cat box...the fridge.....get the dishes done....and claim the house in the name of the Bruce...or The Susie*</p><p> </p><p>Just throwing this out there.....</p><p>Oh and where? Get on Craigslist under volunteer or Part-time jobs - see whats local - meals on wheels - Goodwill - Salvation ARmy - somewhere that needs his mad skillz on web pages or whatver it is he did.....</p><p> </p><p>Some womens shelter that needs a graphics guy - help.....someone always has a philanthropist aunt that works in the background that could recognize his talents.....Know what I mean?? </p><p> </p><p>AND helping - could get him out of his funk....he needs to be needed....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 308596, member: 4964"] WOW I had to read that twice because I thought at first you said the cat boxes were totes and were cramed full and he would only let you open them 12" max. I kept thinking "THE BRUCE." What about the Bruce?" (trying to help you with a little humor there because well - there is just nuttin' funny going on in the Susie* house right now) I battle with DF EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. about his depression. Now if we are talking? It's not HIS DEPRESSION. It's got to be Seasonally afflicted disorder - or like GCV Mom said - "outside" stressers causing him to be stressed that can be helped temporarily with a little assistance. Makes you want to scream - TAKE A PILL already. But as someone who did NOT want to accept "depression" lables - I digress. I was just really, really sad because of my lifes happenings and did not need medication. I would fix EVERYTHING in time...just give me time. JUST needed a break. Just a change - one single thing to change, go right, go my way, happen for ME, back off - help out, take care of me for a change instead of me take care of everyone else. At some point - I think you realize that you are there and you want to fix yourself but you don't. It's like teetering on the brink of pity party and sanity. Could go either way. What if thoughts. I think at some point DF may have even crushed up an extra Zoloft a day to boost my mood. The thing that helped me the most when I got like that? A forgetting day. A day where I forgot I was a Mom, had bills, had worries- and just did something stupid and fun...and didn't cost much money - or any money - but I got out of the house - into the sun....around people....and did something for someone else besides me. I WAS NEEDED. When we work - we are NEEDED - daily. When we stop working? We arent needed. When we feel we aren't needed? We feel like we don't exist - and maybe trying to adapt to YOUR world (stay at home mom) which makes YOU feel needed - does NOT make HIM feel very needed at all. I think if he's not going to work-----he should get the Heck out of the house - and go volunteer - somewhere...Maybe it will help him connect with people that NEED Him....Not making money - well - is he making any sitting at home making his family miserable? Nope.... At least if he's out in the world - he's around PEOPLE - and there is a chance someone could see him - maybe discover a talent and you never know - cards get exchanged....and BAM....new job. You asked for ideas - Short of putting Lexapro in his coffee - I think he needs a call from some organization - :winking: that NEEDS HIM....and then you and JESS can GET to the cat box...the fridge.....get the dishes done....and claim the house in the name of the Bruce...or The Susie* Just throwing this out there..... Oh and where? Get on Craigslist under volunteer or Part-time jobs - see whats local - meals on wheels - Goodwill - Salvation ARmy - somewhere that needs his mad skillz on web pages or whatver it is he did..... Some womens shelter that needs a graphics guy - help.....someone always has a philanthropist aunt that works in the background that could recognize his talents.....Know what I mean?? AND helping - could get him out of his funk....he needs to be needed.... [/QUOTE]
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