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Strugglin' horribly with 11 year old with Conduct Disorder & Personality Disorder
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<blockquote data-quote="Rachielee" data-source="post: 490692" data-attributes="member: 13435"><p>Hey there! He is on Adderall which has helped him tremendously in school. The sneakiness and stealing have been ongoing issues long before he was started on the Adderall, although the stealing was very seldom...nothing out of the norm as far as little kids taking their siblings things, that sort of thing. Lying has always been a huge, huge issue with him and sneakiness. He has been sneaky as hek ever since I came into his life and that has been a bit over 7 years ago. The stealing on the other hand really came into play about a year ago, after he had a very disappointing summer visit with his mother. He was always an A/B honor roll student, but after last summer's visit with his mother, his grades were D's and F's and he just did not care; he is repeating the 5th grade this year because of that. It's like he just said to hek with it all because of the rejection he felt after his visit with his mother. From the day he got home, he was a different kid and not in a good way. The issues he had prior were magnified x 10 and have been going strong since then. Up until a couple/few weeks ago, the stealing was an issue, and I'm sure he stole a lot more than he got caught for, but the past couple/few weeks the stealing seems to be almost a daily occurrence ~ And he gets upset about it but no because of remorse or realizing he made a very poor decision but because he got caught. There is definately a correlation between his feelings of rejection where his mother is concerned and his attitude. This summer she told him he could live with her when he is 12, again he is going to suffer major disappointment once again from her because that is not going to happen! Hek, she doesn't even send them Christmas presents, birthday cards, etc...I am sure in his eyes it is just one swift kick right after another! I do know that he hates it when we inform her of what is going on with him.....he gets very, very upset because he doesn't want her to know. I feel it is because he already feels like somehow he failed her and if she knows everything he is doing then he will be a failure in her eyes again.....it just erks me that a parent can be soooo self-consumed! I didn't birth these boys but let me tell ya.....they come first! That's my job as a parent..... When he was an infant/toddler, I guess his mother would come home late, late at night from the bar and would wake him up to play with him (unreal!!) I think that's when the sleep issues started. It's like he thinks he is going to miss out on something ..... I don't know. Sooo many things stand straight out for attachment issues....now only to convince the psychiatrist and psychotherapist that this needs to be looked into now and not play the guessing game.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Rachielee, post: 490692, member: 13435"] Hey there! He is on Adderall which has helped him tremendously in school. The sneakiness and stealing have been ongoing issues long before he was started on the Adderall, although the stealing was very seldom...nothing out of the norm as far as little kids taking their siblings things, that sort of thing. Lying has always been a huge, huge issue with him and sneakiness. He has been sneaky as hek ever since I came into his life and that has been a bit over 7 years ago. The stealing on the other hand really came into play about a year ago, after he had a very disappointing summer visit with his mother. He was always an A/B honor roll student, but after last summer's visit with his mother, his grades were D's and F's and he just did not care; he is repeating the 5th grade this year because of that. It's like he just said to hek with it all because of the rejection he felt after his visit with his mother. From the day he got home, he was a different kid and not in a good way. The issues he had prior were magnified x 10 and have been going strong since then. Up until a couple/few weeks ago, the stealing was an issue, and I'm sure he stole a lot more than he got caught for, but the past couple/few weeks the stealing seems to be almost a daily occurrence ~ And he gets upset about it but no because of remorse or realizing he made a very poor decision but because he got caught. There is definately a correlation between his feelings of rejection where his mother is concerned and his attitude. This summer she told him he could live with her when he is 12, again he is going to suffer major disappointment once again from her because that is not going to happen! Hek, she doesn't even send them Christmas presents, birthday cards, etc...I am sure in his eyes it is just one swift kick right after another! I do know that he hates it when we inform her of what is going on with him.....he gets very, very upset because he doesn't want her to know. I feel it is because he already feels like somehow he failed her and if she knows everything he is doing then he will be a failure in her eyes again.....it just erks me that a parent can be soooo self-consumed! I didn't birth these boys but let me tell ya.....they come first! That's my job as a parent..... When he was an infant/toddler, I guess his mother would come home late, late at night from the bar and would wake him up to play with him (unreal!!) I think that's when the sleep issues started. It's like he thinks he is going to miss out on something ..... I don't know. Sooo many things stand straight out for attachment issues....now only to convince the psychiatrist and psychotherapist that this needs to be looked into now and not play the guessing game. [/QUOTE]
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