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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 765160" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>When my son hit 23 I couldn't take anymore (NOT.) One day after work I mustered the courage and told him to leave. Just. Like.That. He banged on the windows all night. I feel guilty still. That was 12 years ago.</p><p></p><p>And then there was the next stage. He was out of the house, but I couldn't let go. I couldn't accept I did not have a part in writing his story. An obligation to make it turn out okay; his life turn out okay.</p><p></p><p>And then about 3 years ago, something happened where I could not ignore the cost to myself. And I backed almost all of the way out.</p><p></p><p>Somebody I trust said to me a couple of months ago, the cost of creating a separate self, from him, was some of my love for him. What a gut punch that was.</p><p></p><p>I don't know what to think.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 765160, member: 18958"] When my son hit 23 I couldn't take anymore (NOT.) One day after work I mustered the courage and told him to leave. Just. Like.That. He banged on the windows all night. I feel guilty still. That was 12 years ago. And then there was the next stage. He was out of the house, but I couldn't let go. I couldn't accept I did not have a part in writing his story. An obligation to make it turn out okay; his life turn out okay. And then about 3 years ago, something happened where I could not ignore the cost to myself. And I backed almost all of the way out. Somebody I trust said to me a couple of months ago, the cost of creating a separate self, from him, was some of my love for him. What a gut punch that was. I don't know what to think. [/QUOTE]
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