Ugh Ugh Ugh - Scream Scream Scream -
I think I posted about a month ago about a substitute teacher who told difficult child that because of his behavior last Spring she could not believe anything he said and refused to even figure out what was going on. She automatically blamed and yelled at difficult child! I talked to him and told him that she does not know how he has changed and that many people will take time to be able to trust that what they are seeing now is what they are getting. He has the advantage that many people saw the kid he was before last year's episode so they know he can be good. This substitute teacher had also taught him before last year so should know better.
She was a sub again today. As I was leaving the school (difficult child had already left to walk to bowling) I asked if she had noticed the difference in difficult child. "No, I haven't seen any difference." I told her that he is more respectful and does not lie or behave like last Spring. She looked at me with such disbelief, "He was disrespectful today!" I told her that he is like any other kid in his behaviors and that he was upset that she used his past against him last month. "Oh no! I would never do that!" "Yes, you told him that because of his past history that you would not believe him or listen to what he had to say." "He did not call E a name." "Oh yes he did!" "I am sure he did not and if he did, she had a part in getting him going." Sub shakes her head "No she did not and that is all I am going to say" I closed the conversation with, "Don't ever use difficult child's past behavior against him."
I am so upset! If he really was behaving like she is saying, I know his current teachers would be talking to me about it. Her behavour toward me was screaming loud and clear that difficult child is a troublemaker and that she is looking for opportunities to put him in his place.
I did ask difficult child how today went and he said fine. I asked if she got after him for anything and he said "no".
I hope the school will not need her services very often. So much for giving her the benefit of the doubt last time!
I think I posted about a month ago about a substitute teacher who told difficult child that because of his behavior last Spring she could not believe anything he said and refused to even figure out what was going on. She automatically blamed and yelled at difficult child! I talked to him and told him that she does not know how he has changed and that many people will take time to be able to trust that what they are seeing now is what they are getting. He has the advantage that many people saw the kid he was before last year's episode so they know he can be good. This substitute teacher had also taught him before last year so should know better.
She was a sub again today. As I was leaving the school (difficult child had already left to walk to bowling) I asked if she had noticed the difference in difficult child. "No, I haven't seen any difference." I told her that he is more respectful and does not lie or behave like last Spring. She looked at me with such disbelief, "He was disrespectful today!" I told her that he is like any other kid in his behaviors and that he was upset that she used his past against him last month. "Oh no! I would never do that!" "Yes, you told him that because of his past history that you would not believe him or listen to what he had to say." "He did not call E a name." "Oh yes he did!" "I am sure he did not and if he did, she had a part in getting him going." Sub shakes her head "No she did not and that is all I am going to say" I closed the conversation with, "Don't ever use difficult child's past behavior against him."
I am so upset! If he really was behaving like she is saying, I know his current teachers would be talking to me about it. Her behavour toward me was screaming loud and clear that difficult child is a troublemaker and that she is looking for opportunities to put him in his place.
I did ask difficult child how today went and he said fine. I asked if she got after him for anything and he said "no".
I hope the school will not need her services very often. So much for giving her the benefit of the doubt last time!