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<blockquote data-quote="compassion" data-source="post: 223570" data-attributes="member: 6393"><p>She has been going to AA at my insistance for the past month: She has made 26 meetings since Nov.1 plus therapist and psychiatrist. I have always set good clear boundries/supervision , curfews and channel in healthy actvities. She started running to use in June. Nov. 17 we laid iy out metins, no contact with alcohol users/drug users or law breakers. It has been a month doing our absolute best and I am proud of her. She has one freind she hangs with almost constatly and involved in youth group at a church. She is involved inn volleyball, music, Humane Society but still sees fun as these out of the box kids. She did tell them no yesterday to picking her up. That was huge.</p><p> My fear is if I insist she has nothing to do with who SHE wants, she will run and bolt again. If she does the healthy stuff (Vball, AA,music,family activties) and we insist she sees them in public for a few hours with supervision/limits (movie/Mall) it avoids the power struggle. Yes MWM, she has a part of her that thinks she can do whatever she wants. As far as I can discern, the drinking using was all at unsupervised houses. </p><p> A few months ago, she insisted on having contact with a 20 year old young man. She is 15. This is when she had a 17 year old boyfriend. I told her no, p-doctor spent much time on this oint also -she snuck did it anyway.</p><p> So, my idea was channel/insist on the healty while supporting her. Knwoing her and my own experinces, deprivation makes stuff feel so much mmore attractive.</p><p> There has been huge progress in the past month. She has not run and do not beleive she has used illegal substances.</p><p></p><p> I do hope and pray the day will come when she does not want to be around people that use. I do think the craving the chatic/out of the box,quirkky,arty,emo is part of her personality and not all bad. </p><p>Compassion</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="compassion, post: 223570, member: 6393"] She has been going to AA at my insistance for the past month: She has made 26 meetings since Nov.1 plus therapist and psychiatrist. I have always set good clear boundries/supervision , curfews and channel in healthy actvities. She started running to use in June. Nov. 17 we laid iy out metins, no contact with alcohol users/drug users or law breakers. It has been a month doing our absolute best and I am proud of her. She has one freind she hangs with almost constatly and involved in youth group at a church. She is involved inn volleyball, music, Humane Society but still sees fun as these out of the box kids. She did tell them no yesterday to picking her up. That was huge. My fear is if I insist she has nothing to do with who SHE wants, she will run and bolt again. If she does the healthy stuff (Vball, AA,music,family activties) and we insist she sees them in public for a few hours with supervision/limits (movie/Mall) it avoids the power struggle. Yes MWM, she has a part of her that thinks she can do whatever she wants. As far as I can discern, the drinking using was all at unsupervised houses. A few months ago, she insisted on having contact with a 20 year old young man. She is 15. This is when she had a 17 year old boyfriend. I told her no, p-doctor spent much time on this oint also -she snuck did it anyway. So, my idea was channel/insist on the healty while supporting her. Knwoing her and my own experinces, deprivation makes stuff feel so much mmore attractive. There has been huge progress in the past month. She has not run and do not beleive she has used illegal substances. I do hope and pray the day will come when she does not want to be around people that use. I do think the craving the chatic/out of the box,quirkky,arty,emo is part of her personality and not all bad. Compassion [/QUOTE]
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