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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 223707" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>The only way my daughter quit using was when she was sent out of state to live with her brother, who is very straight, and had no more contact with her "friends." I use the word lightly. She had tried to quit and many times DID quit for short times, but they were what kept her going back, even when she didn't really want to use anymore. I think who they hang with is very telling. If your daughter still wants to be with druggie friends, in my opinion she is at great risk to start using again. I tried to keep my daughter home--even homeschooled her--she sneaked out at night through her window. She found ways. I had to get her out of town or she was going to die. The sad thing is, I didn't even know how BAD it had been for her until she quit using and told me all the stuff she'd used. I'd never dreamed she used cocaine or tried heroine, but she had. </p><p>I really think who these vulnerable young teens hang around with tells you where their priorities are. I'd almost think your daughter is better off in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) than with those kids. At least, if it's a good Residential Treatment Center (RTC), perhaps there will be no drugs there and she will have to face herself while she is straight and attend AA/NA meetings. And she won't be around her friends, although it's likely that many kids in the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) would be drug abusers, some not very motivated to quit, just doing their time, trying to get out so they can do it agian.</p><p>I don't envy you. This is not fun. In the end, my daughter quit because she wanted to quit. But she also quit because she finally got away from her peers who pushed her. She needed a fresh start. The straight kids wouldn't hang around with her here, and the druggies didn't want her to go straight and weren't about to let her (they badgered her mercilessly) and, in the end, she was not strong enough to fight them. She needed to leave them. When she hears about her old friends now almost all of them have been in jail and are unemployed. She laughs about it, but it could have been her.</p><p>Do what you need to do to help her along. I would greatly discourge her from being anywhere near these kids. Some therapists aren't very useful. We had one who told us just to TRUST our daughter more. This was after she stole form us several times and was busted for drugs twice and lied to us as easy as breathing. The therapist was useless. </p><p>I wish you all the best...and your daughter too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 223707, member: 1550"] The only way my daughter quit using was when she was sent out of state to live with her brother, who is very straight, and had no more contact with her "friends." I use the word lightly. She had tried to quit and many times DID quit for short times, but they were what kept her going back, even when she didn't really want to use anymore. I think who they hang with is very telling. If your daughter still wants to be with druggie friends, in my opinion she is at great risk to start using again. I tried to keep my daughter home--even homeschooled her--she sneaked out at night through her window. She found ways. I had to get her out of town or she was going to die. The sad thing is, I didn't even know how BAD it had been for her until she quit using and told me all the stuff she'd used. I'd never dreamed she used cocaine or tried heroine, but she had. I really think who these vulnerable young teens hang around with tells you where their priorities are. I'd almost think your daughter is better off in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) than with those kids. At least, if it's a good Residential Treatment Center (RTC), perhaps there will be no drugs there and she will have to face herself while she is straight and attend AA/NA meetings. And she won't be around her friends, although it's likely that many kids in the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) would be drug abusers, some not very motivated to quit, just doing their time, trying to get out so they can do it agian. I don't envy you. This is not fun. In the end, my daughter quit because she wanted to quit. But she also quit because she finally got away from her peers who pushed her. She needed a fresh start. The straight kids wouldn't hang around with her here, and the druggies didn't want her to go straight and weren't about to let her (they badgered her mercilessly) and, in the end, she was not strong enough to fight them. She needed to leave them. When she hears about her old friends now almost all of them have been in jail and are unemployed. She laughs about it, but it could have been her. Do what you need to do to help her along. I would greatly discourge her from being anywhere near these kids. Some therapists aren't very useful. We had one who told us just to TRUST our daughter more. This was after she stole form us several times and was busted for drugs twice and lied to us as easy as breathing. The therapist was useless. I wish you all the best...and your daughter too. [/QUOTE]
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