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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 170877" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Steely</p><p> </p><p>You are hereby under orders <strong><em>not to look at anymore pics</em></strong> like that!! I can't handle them and I've seen more death than most (line of work) and can eat supper while watching major surgery on someone. </p><p> </p><p>But I also think you're moving forward in your grief. You've passed from denial and avoidance into wanting to confront it. You need a more constructive way to confront it though. And the group you mentioned could give you guidance.</p><p> </p><p>As for your parents...........</p><p> </p><p>My Mom has done that with me for the past 25 yrs. I do alot of nodding, pay attention at the important parts, and let the rest pass right on thru. Even mother in law does it. Only hers is worse because at 94 she's wanting to pass on. On some level it's natural. I think with the thing with H they feel a more pressing need to make things as smooth as possible if anything should happen.</p><p> </p><p>In an odd sort of way I think they're attempting to look out for you. </p><p> </p><p>At 17 kids don't handle things the way we would. They hide how they really feel and then get furious with us because we can't read their minds. But it does improve with age and maturity.</p><p> </p><p>((((hugs))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 170877, member: 84"] Steely You are hereby under orders [B][I]not to look at anymore pics[/I][/B] like that!! I can't handle them and I've seen more death than most (line of work) and can eat supper while watching major surgery on someone. But I also think you're moving forward in your grief. You've passed from denial and avoidance into wanting to confront it. You need a more constructive way to confront it though. And the group you mentioned could give you guidance. As for your parents........... My Mom has done that with me for the past 25 yrs. I do alot of nodding, pay attention at the important parts, and let the rest pass right on thru. Even mother in law does it. Only hers is worse because at 94 she's wanting to pass on. On some level it's natural. I think with the thing with H they feel a more pressing need to make things as smooth as possible if anything should happen. In an odd sort of way I think they're attempting to look out for you. At 17 kids don't handle things the way we would. They hide how they really feel and then get furious with us because we can't read their minds. But it does improve with age and maturity. ((((hugs)))) [/QUOTE]
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