I have noticed that talking real slow and explaining the obvious works really good on V. I feel bad to say that, but it's like I talk to a dummy (and I know he is no dummy!) and have to explain the simplest things. The kind of things "normal" people just get. It is actually harder than it sounds: explaining that the 2 toy airplanes are identical, maybe one is blue and the other yellow but it does not affect their function. One can play the same way with one or the other. Explaining that sometime people need their personal space and just need to be left alone a little. A little has to be explained than: maybe 10 minutes? Then of course V does not get what "10 minutes" is. So then I have to show him on the clock. Once it is explained, he actually complies. It annoys me, but husband is taking it real hard. He asks me why V cannot just snap out of it... I don't know what to say besides taking the time and hoping one day V will just "get it". It is time consuming to always have to pause for V, but honestly it is better than a never ending tantrum. Sometimes, I let V have a tantrum just so husband get a chance to handle it or learn how to handle. Than I get agravated when husband does not pause. And of course husband gets upset when I tell him what to do (ie: mute the TV, ask him how he feels, use simple words, show him his emotion cards, etc...). husband usually end up doing it with V, but by then we are all kind of upset. And then, the million dollar question: how do you explain the need to talk slow to the school when V looks perfectly smart?? That when V smiles looking down it actually means he does not understand what's going on? That he does not answer the question not because he does not want to, but because he can't? Talking slow works, but it is hard to put in practice!