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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 426592" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>From "THE book"... most people believe that "kids do well if they want to"; the alternative is to believe that "kids do well if they can". My experience is that the best thing to do when I find myself thinking that "he could if he wanted to"... is to go bang my head on the wall... OR go re-read "THE book". Seriously. It might not be the transition - it might be some other trigger, and you have to find out what it is. For example, some kids can't "leave" an activity until it is "done" - for example, a game isn't over until you know who won... so, it isn't the transitioning in that case but the incompleteness that causes the problem... </p><p> </p><p>In two weeks of pouring over "THE book"... we've dropped resistance by multiples. Had a fairly good idea going in what some of the base issues were, but didn't have any validation on that and/or any approaches that work... </p><p> </p><p>Everytime things do NOT work (i.e. tantrum etc.), it is just an opportunity to rewind the tape (for yourself) and find another trigger, another trend. Its worth the effort.</p><p> </p><p><smile - its almost Monday!></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 426592, member: 11791"] From "THE book"... most people believe that "kids do well if they want to"; the alternative is to believe that "kids do well if they can". My experience is that the best thing to do when I find myself thinking that "he could if he wanted to"... is to go bang my head on the wall... OR go re-read "THE book". Seriously. It might not be the transition - it might be some other trigger, and you have to find out what it is. For example, some kids can't "leave" an activity until it is "done" - for example, a game isn't over until you know who won... so, it isn't the transitioning in that case but the incompleteness that causes the problem... In two weeks of pouring over "THE book"... we've dropped resistance by multiples. Had a fairly good idea going in what some of the base issues were, but didn't have any validation on that and/or any approaches that work... Everytime things do NOT work (i.e. tantrum etc.), it is just an opportunity to rewind the tape (for yourself) and find another trigger, another trend. Its worth the effort. <smile - its almost Monday!> [/QUOTE]
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