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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 326929" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>difficult child 3 did begin to read the book at times, I did talk to him and say, "You are likely to find things that make you annoyed if you read what you aren't supposed to." I was taking advantage, I guess, of difficult child 3's autism (and basic honesty) as well as his apathy about anything not directly under his nose.</p><p></p><p>I explained to him that this was how his teachers & I communicated. I was careful to keep entries factual so if he read something like, "difficult child 3 didn't sleep well last night, he had nightmares and came into my room several times. He may be extra tired today," then there was nothing in that for him to disagree with.</p><p>Often if a teacher vented in the book, writing something like, "I could have cheerfully throttled him today," difficult child 3 was already aware it had been a bad day. It generally didn't do any harm for him to see the teacher's feelings on paper; he already would have known the teacher was cross. If it was followed with, "I hear you, I know he can be frustrating. Just take a deep breath, he's nnot always that bad. Here's hoping you will both be in better shape after the weekend," then again - nothing there to upset him. Nothing he's not already saying worse things to himself about.</p><p></p><p>I said I did this as a computer file - I do know difficult child 3 has gone through the computer files in meticulous detail, in recent years. He says he likes to read about how he used to be, because he knows he's come a long way since then.</p><p></p><p>I find these kids tend to be a lot harder on themselves (in terms of personal criticism) than we are on them. So often for them to read what we have really said about them, can be reassuring for them.</p><p></p><p>However, no interference with the Book will be allowed. If they do, we have to personally deliver/collect the book via another route. Or do it via emails. I was using the Communication Book at a time when emails were not an option.</p><p></p><p>If you do manage this communication via emails, collect them all together into one text file and suggest to the teacher to do the same thing. What really helps, is having all the information in one place because then as you read over, you can begin to see patterns that otherwise you might miss. You might see a pattern, or the teacher might. </p><p></p><p>You know - thinking about it, perhaps a computer file of some sort is the best way to go. We often had problems with the book going missing (usually because the teacher tried to make difficult child responsible for it against my strict requirement not to). Things can't go missing electronically, not in the same way.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 326929, member: 1991"] difficult child 3 did begin to read the book at times, I did talk to him and say, "You are likely to find things that make you annoyed if you read what you aren't supposed to." I was taking advantage, I guess, of difficult child 3's autism (and basic honesty) as well as his apathy about anything not directly under his nose. I explained to him that this was how his teachers & I communicated. I was careful to keep entries factual so if he read something like, "difficult child 3 didn't sleep well last night, he had nightmares and came into my room several times. He may be extra tired today," then there was nothing in that for him to disagree with. Often if a teacher vented in the book, writing something like, "I could have cheerfully throttled him today," difficult child 3 was already aware it had been a bad day. It generally didn't do any harm for him to see the teacher's feelings on paper; he already would have known the teacher was cross. If it was followed with, "I hear you, I know he can be frustrating. Just take a deep breath, he's nnot always that bad. Here's hoping you will both be in better shape after the weekend," then again - nothing there to upset him. Nothing he's not already saying worse things to himself about. I said I did this as a computer file - I do know difficult child 3 has gone through the computer files in meticulous detail, in recent years. He says he likes to read about how he used to be, because he knows he's come a long way since then. I find these kids tend to be a lot harder on themselves (in terms of personal criticism) than we are on them. So often for them to read what we have really said about them, can be reassuring for them. However, no interference with the Book will be allowed. If they do, we have to personally deliver/collect the book via another route. Or do it via emails. I was using the Communication Book at a time when emails were not an option. If you do manage this communication via emails, collect them all together into one text file and suggest to the teacher to do the same thing. What really helps, is having all the information in one place because then as you read over, you can begin to see patterns that otherwise you might miss. You might see a pattern, or the teacher might. You know - thinking about it, perhaps a computer file of some sort is the best way to go. We often had problems with the book going missing (usually because the teacher tried to make difficult child responsible for it against my strict requirement not to). Things can't go missing electronically, not in the same way. Marg [/QUOTE]
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