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<blockquote data-quote="Tiapet" data-source="post: 527238" data-attributes="member: 455"><p>I did hold out on the not talking until about 4 today and she said you're still not talking? I said I really don't want to. She was asking general questions about different day to day things and I eased back into it with her. I said I really don't need to be exploded on. At one point something angered her and she started yelling about it and I told her "this is why, I don't need the yelling" and she pointed out (this is an example of grammer issue with her) she was not <em>yelling</em> but she was raising her voice! lol semantics if you asking me. She was yelling but she likes to do this about words and will debate just about everything anyhow even if it's not about grammer. I'm not a type person to enter any debates with anyone. Never have been.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, she immediately backed right down and lowered her voice and talked normal again. She also went on to make a statement about how I don't get her/understand her, something to that affect, anymore. This is something new as I do and have always gotten her a lot more then she knows. She knew I did understand her but I think there is a disconnect going on right now within herself as well and that is part of the frustration. </p><p></p><p>Funniest thing is I had put in a call to her therapist the day before this all had occurred because she made a statement about what was the point of going to this therapist because it wasn't helping. I knew something was brewing and that was a warning that she was withdrawing. My point in calling was to give this new therapist a heads up to the statement and let her know that I realized she's probably still trying to get a feel for her but difficult child is looking for some immediate feedback on "how" or "what" she might be able to do about situation (assuming she hadn't already given it). Also to let her know that she may need to speak to dr about this because sleeping pattern has now changed again back to what it was with new medication on board coinciding with the behavior amping up to. I notice every little change in all the difficult child's. I have no choice as it's been my life and I'm here all the time! LOL Therapist finally did call me back today but it was bad timing as difficult child was right here so I let it go to voicemail. I try not to talk to her within ear shot as I know it angers difficult child. It's different if I GO to the appointment with difficult child but if I call and fill her in on details some how it makes a difference to difficult child, kind of like I'm ratting her out? Little oddities like this.</p><p></p><p>Star thank you. Yes I could have called you. I just get through these things, with them all. This one I knew I could just vent away here. I know it will pass too. She does need to apologize for what she said. I'm not sure she is of mindset that she can right now. I will allow her time and see what happens. I do know it bothers her. I think it's like Buddy with Q, conflicting thoughts. Just like today right after the incident about "yelling" semantics, she said the harsh words to her beloved dog too! I KNOW her mind is not well as she would NEVER say that to her either. The dog had an accident after just coming in from being outside going potty.</p><p></p><p>It breaks my heart because she's like the guy in A Beautiful Mind, brilliant but sick. She did well for so many years but right now we are trying to get her restabilized and it's just been and continues to be a rough road. If not for her.....I would have never found this board back in 1996 and developed my hard earned shield, it's just got a few dents along the way! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiapet, post: 527238, member: 455"] I did hold out on the not talking until about 4 today and she said you're still not talking? I said I really don't want to. She was asking general questions about different day to day things and I eased back into it with her. I said I really don't need to be exploded on. At one point something angered her and she started yelling about it and I told her "this is why, I don't need the yelling" and she pointed out (this is an example of grammer issue with her) she was not [I]yelling[/I] but she was raising her voice! lol semantics if you asking me. She was yelling but she likes to do this about words and will debate just about everything anyhow even if it's not about grammer. I'm not a type person to enter any debates with anyone. Never have been. Anyway, she immediately backed right down and lowered her voice and talked normal again. She also went on to make a statement about how I don't get her/understand her, something to that affect, anymore. This is something new as I do and have always gotten her a lot more then she knows. She knew I did understand her but I think there is a disconnect going on right now within herself as well and that is part of the frustration. Funniest thing is I had put in a call to her therapist the day before this all had occurred because she made a statement about what was the point of going to this therapist because it wasn't helping. I knew something was brewing and that was a warning that she was withdrawing. My point in calling was to give this new therapist a heads up to the statement and let her know that I realized she's probably still trying to get a feel for her but difficult child is looking for some immediate feedback on "how" or "what" she might be able to do about situation (assuming she hadn't already given it). Also to let her know that she may need to speak to dr about this because sleeping pattern has now changed again back to what it was with new medication on board coinciding with the behavior amping up to. I notice every little change in all the difficult child's. I have no choice as it's been my life and I'm here all the time! LOL Therapist finally did call me back today but it was bad timing as difficult child was right here so I let it go to voicemail. I try not to talk to her within ear shot as I know it angers difficult child. It's different if I GO to the appointment with difficult child but if I call and fill her in on details some how it makes a difference to difficult child, kind of like I'm ratting her out? Little oddities like this. Star thank you. Yes I could have called you. I just get through these things, with them all. This one I knew I could just vent away here. I know it will pass too. She does need to apologize for what she said. I'm not sure she is of mindset that she can right now. I will allow her time and see what happens. I do know it bothers her. I think it's like Buddy with Q, conflicting thoughts. Just like today right after the incident about "yelling" semantics, she said the harsh words to her beloved dog too! I KNOW her mind is not well as she would NEVER say that to her either. The dog had an accident after just coming in from being outside going potty. It breaks my heart because she's like the guy in A Beautiful Mind, brilliant but sick. She did well for so many years but right now we are trying to get her restabilized and it's just been and continues to be a rough road. If not for her.....I would have never found this board back in 1996 and developed my hard earned shield, it's just got a few dents along the way! :) [/QUOTE]
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