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I am not sure if my link will work - but Chris Cuomo was on The View today and - like every other media outlet - the question was raised about James Holmes (CO shooter) parents culpability in their son's downfall. The View asked nicely and for that I am grateful - but he answered succinctly that a parent can't force help on a child once they become an adult...
I am especially sensitive about this - after being at easy child's College orientation this weekend and being fed a lot of "they are adults now that they're 18, we can't release information, we can't control them, we can't take your calls, you need to let go and let them be independent, blah blah blah" while at the same time being told it was up to us to instill values and have conversations about morals and behavior standards and watch for depression warning signs, out of control spending, declining grade (only after the adult child has willingly shared them) etc, etc, etc - totally an oxymoron. And of course I was way sensitive to begin with - after my experience with difficult child's college dean. You love nurture, raise this kid for 17 years and 364 days and at 18 years - society says you no longer have a vested interest in the well being of your son or daughter. It's almost a hostile suspicion that you are simply a control freak, overbearing or helicoptering. Yet - if the kid fails in a blazing fashion - the blame falls squarely on the shoulders of the parents.
Anyway, if you're bored and my link worked - it's nice to hear his response...
http://theview.abc.go.com/blog/lega...s-next-colorado-shooting-suspect-james-holmes
I am especially sensitive about this - after being at easy child's College orientation this weekend and being fed a lot of "they are adults now that they're 18, we can't release information, we can't control them, we can't take your calls, you need to let go and let them be independent, blah blah blah" while at the same time being told it was up to us to instill values and have conversations about morals and behavior standards and watch for depression warning signs, out of control spending, declining grade (only after the adult child has willingly shared them) etc, etc, etc - totally an oxymoron. And of course I was way sensitive to begin with - after my experience with difficult child's college dean. You love nurture, raise this kid for 17 years and 364 days and at 18 years - society says you no longer have a vested interest in the well being of your son or daughter. It's almost a hostile suspicion that you are simply a control freak, overbearing or helicoptering. Yet - if the kid fails in a blazing fashion - the blame falls squarely on the shoulders of the parents.
Anyway, if you're bored and my link worked - it's nice to hear his response...
http://theview.abc.go.com/blog/lega...s-next-colorado-shooting-suspect-james-holmes
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