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<blockquote data-quote="TeDo" data-source="post: 598541" data-attributes="member: 15799"><p>My story is very similar to your and MWM's. My son was diagnosed with ADHD at age 3. Stimulants put him on a "drug high" and at the time there wasn't anything else for kids so young. He almost got kicked out of kindergarten after the 2nd day because he destroyed the room within an hour of being there. I realized that it was fear so I went to school with him the whole day the next day and things were fine after that. In 4th grade, school became harder for him and expectations increased so behaviors increased as well. The school dealt with them harshly. ODD and "possible bipolar" were added as diagnosis. Many medications were tried and it was not pretty. He carried those into middle school where things went downhill. Their answer to dealing with ODD was to "show them who's the boss". In 6th grade, his sensory needs increased. The 3rd Occupational Therapist (OT) we went to was AWESOME and a huge help. She found things that hindered schoolwork and sensory processing disorder (SPD) was added to the mix. We switched psychiatrists when ours left and that's when the Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) diagnosis replaced the ODD and "possible bipolar". The psychiatrist put difficult child 1 on Risperdal because "it has been shown to help with the anxiety in kids with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD)". The need for more abstract thinking and the need to be able to figure things out using context clues in school work increased and difficult child 1 just wasn't capable of doing that. Frustration increased and behaviors became severe. He spent most of his time in the principal's office with worksheets in front of him from his classes. I'm sure you can figure out what happened. I fought the school for over a year to get help and appropriate interventions but the absolutely refused to accept the Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) diagnosis. difficult child 1 became violent on the Risperdal so we Difficult Child'd it. The school situation sent him into a very, very deep depression so the psychiatrist put him on Prozac. Over a period of 5 months, his defiance and impulsivity gradually got worse and then violence set in again, landing him on a 72-hour hold at a phsop. It was caused by the Prozac. </p><p></p><p>Through this process, I have had to make a lot of changes in how I handle situations. The book The Explosive Child taught me to dig for the reasons for the behaviors. By asking why about most everything, I learned how difficult child 1 thinks and how differently that is. Now that I know how he thinks, I have learned how to teach him the social things and alternate thinking of others. It's been a long rode but we are doing quite well now. There are still bumps in the road and I have learned to accept him the way he is and keep in mind that he may chronologically be 15 years old but that emotionally, he's closer to 10. I have had to change my expectations of him but at the same time actively teach him to act like a 15 year old. It's hard and can be frustrating but it is working.</p><p></p><p>Glad you found us and that you're finding this board as helpful as I have over the years. For a long time, this was my lifeline and my sanity. ((((HUGS)))) to you and difficult child.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TeDo, post: 598541, member: 15799"] My story is very similar to your and MWM's. My son was diagnosed with ADHD at age 3. Stimulants put him on a "drug high" and at the time there wasn't anything else for kids so young. He almost got kicked out of kindergarten after the 2nd day because he destroyed the room within an hour of being there. I realized that it was fear so I went to school with him the whole day the next day and things were fine after that. In 4th grade, school became harder for him and expectations increased so behaviors increased as well. The school dealt with them harshly. ODD and "possible bipolar" were added as diagnosis. Many medications were tried and it was not pretty. He carried those into middle school where things went downhill. Their answer to dealing with ODD was to "show them who's the boss". In 6th grade, his sensory needs increased. The 3rd Occupational Therapist (OT) we went to was AWESOME and a huge help. She found things that hindered schoolwork and sensory processing disorder (SPD) was added to the mix. We switched psychiatrists when ours left and that's when the Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) diagnosis replaced the ODD and "possible bipolar". The psychiatrist put difficult child 1 on Risperdal because "it has been shown to help with the anxiety in kids with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD)". The need for more abstract thinking and the need to be able to figure things out using context clues in school work increased and difficult child 1 just wasn't capable of doing that. Frustration increased and behaviors became severe. He spent most of his time in the principal's office with worksheets in front of him from his classes. I'm sure you can figure out what happened. I fought the school for over a year to get help and appropriate interventions but the absolutely refused to accept the Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) diagnosis. difficult child 1 became violent on the Risperdal so we Difficult Child'd it. The school situation sent him into a very, very deep depression so the psychiatrist put him on Prozac. Over a period of 5 months, his defiance and impulsivity gradually got worse and then violence set in again, landing him on a 72-hour hold at a phsop. It was caused by the Prozac. Through this process, I have had to make a lot of changes in how I handle situations. The book The Explosive Child taught me to dig for the reasons for the behaviors. By asking why about most everything, I learned how difficult child 1 thinks and how differently that is. Now that I know how he thinks, I have learned how to teach him the social things and alternate thinking of others. It's been a long rode but we are doing quite well now. There are still bumps in the road and I have learned to accept him the way he is and keep in mind that he may chronologically be 15 years old but that emotionally, he's closer to 10. I have had to change my expectations of him but at the same time actively teach him to act like a 15 year old. It's hard and can be frustrating but it is working. Glad you found us and that you're finding this board as helpful as I have over the years. For a long time, this was my lifeline and my sanity. ((((HUGS)))) to you and difficult child. [/QUOTE]
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