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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 580040" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>TM, from all I know about Duckie, she seems to be a good-hearted and kind girl. She's also at that dreaded pre-teen stage. I'm dealing with a fair dose of the same from easy child as the hormonal storms begin.</p><p></p><p>I would take a two-pronged approach of: 1) appealing to her better nature and 2) following up with hard line consequences. Here's what I mean:</p><p></p><p>1) The better nature:</p><p>Explain that being late, keeping other people waiting, not taking proper care of her things etc. is disrespectful and arrogant. It shows a complete disregard for other people and their time, money and hard work. Perhaps provide an example she can relate to, such as your helping yourself to a bunch of craft supplies that she had just finished laying out for a project, or your dawdling when taking her to dance class resulting in her being late and missing half of it.</p><p></p><p>2) The hard line consequences</p><p>If she's dawdling and will make you late for something, leave without her. Depending on whether it's feasible or not, make her either get to her activity on her own or miss out. </p><p>For things like family meals, if she's not at the table and everyone else is ready, start without her. Explain that the rest of you should not be punished by having to eat cold food just because she couldn't be on time.</p><p>Can she pay for (or work off) the cost of replacing damaged things, e.g. the gas required for you to get her a new epipen, or the replacement charge for the new epipen? Personally I would go with both.</p><p></p><p>I think sometimes our little wonders have to be reminded that they're not the centre of the universe, and no the sun does not shine out of their nether regions.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 580040, member: 3907"] TM, from all I know about Duckie, she seems to be a good-hearted and kind girl. She's also at that dreaded pre-teen stage. I'm dealing with a fair dose of the same from easy child as the hormonal storms begin. I would take a two-pronged approach of: 1) appealing to her better nature and 2) following up with hard line consequences. Here's what I mean: 1) The better nature: Explain that being late, keeping other people waiting, not taking proper care of her things etc. is disrespectful and arrogant. It shows a complete disregard for other people and their time, money and hard work. Perhaps provide an example she can relate to, such as your helping yourself to a bunch of craft supplies that she had just finished laying out for a project, or your dawdling when taking her to dance class resulting in her being late and missing half of it. 2) The hard line consequences If she's dawdling and will make you late for something, leave without her. Depending on whether it's feasible or not, make her either get to her activity on her own or miss out. For things like family meals, if she's not at the table and everyone else is ready, start without her. Explain that the rest of you should not be punished by having to eat cold food just because she couldn't be on time. Can she pay for (or work off) the cost of replacing damaged things, e.g. the gas required for you to get her a new epipen, or the replacement charge for the new epipen? Personally I would go with both. I think sometimes our little wonders have to be reminded that they're not the centre of the universe, and no the sun does not shine out of their nether regions. [/QUOTE]
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