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The Bad Man Was Picked Up This Morning in Relation to the Car Accident
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<blockquote data-quote="scent of cedar" data-source="post: 603263" data-attributes="member: 1721"><p>I just got <u>Daring Greatly</u> from the library, Recovering. I have read some of Brene Brown's earlier things. I think <u>Daring Greatly</u> is where she puts it all together. I'm pretty excited to begin it. After reading some of her earlier things, I began welcoming that sense of vulnerability, instead of trying to ignore it. You know, that old "behave as though you are strong enough, kind enough, bright enough, and the reality will follow." Actually kind of reveling in the vulnerability brings a sense of calmness and rightness to the situation. I've only remembered to think that way a time or two, but her theories make such good sense to me.</p><p></p><p>I'm glad you read it, too.</p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p>I'm just finishing Joel Osteen's <u>Every Day a Friday</u>. That has been a very good thing to read, as well.</p><p></p><p></p><p>******</p><p></p><p>So, here are the charges: </p><p></p><p>2nd Degree Attempted Vehicular Homicide While Intoxicated</p><p>Assault (I think maybe vehicular assault while intoxicated, but difficult child just said "assault."</p><p>Two other charges having to do with DUI, and with driving without a license or after revocation.</p><p></p><p>This man is only 36. He has been in and out of prison all his life. This is also the man "imminently" dying of alcoholism. He has something called an ARMS worker, which means he has mental health issues. He was raised poor by parents very much like he is. Both parents, and most family members, lived similar lives, and are dead. Mostly, he has been homeless for years. When he is in an apartment (as he was in difficult children, back when she still had an apartment ~ or a hotel room, for that matter), he has been evicted and blacklisted. (As difficult child is, now.) </p><p></p><p>Maybe the value in telling this story here, if there is one, is for each of us to tell our difficult child kids this story. However hopeless their lives seem today, something like this can make the nightmare a thing impossible to come back from. Not only that. But how would this man have felt had he killed difficult child that day? Those are the kinds of things all our difficult children are looking at when they get behind the wheel all stressed out or drunk or high or whatever.</p><p></p><p>The other thing for us to think about is that, if our kids leave treatment AMA, we need to do all we can to prevent them from having access to their vehicles. I am very grateful the man picked a stone wall to crash into, instead of another car. Driving really is a privilege, and a responsibility. It didn't occur to us to try to keep difficult children van away from her. I wish now that we had tried. Maybe one of the parents here will read this, and it will help some other difficult child.</p><p></p><p>I had never really thought about how stupidly dangerous it is to drive after drinking or drugging or whatever. With difficult children, it is never going to be about having a drink with dinner. It's going to be driving totally whacked out. </p><p></p><p>I just keep thinking that he's only 36.</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="scent of cedar, post: 603263, member: 1721"] I just got [U]Daring Greatly[/U] from the library, Recovering. I have read some of Brene Brown's earlier things. I think [U]Daring Greatly[/U] is where she puts it all together. I'm pretty excited to begin it. After reading some of her earlier things, I began welcoming that sense of vulnerability, instead of trying to ignore it. You know, that old "behave as though you are strong enough, kind enough, bright enough, and the reality will follow." Actually kind of reveling in the vulnerability brings a sense of calmness and rightness to the situation. I've only remembered to think that way a time or two, but her theories make such good sense to me. I'm glad you read it, too. :O) I'm just finishing Joel Osteen's [U]Every Day a Friday[/U]. That has been a very good thing to read, as well. ****** So, here are the charges: 2nd Degree Attempted Vehicular Homicide While Intoxicated Assault (I think maybe vehicular assault while intoxicated, but difficult child just said "assault." Two other charges having to do with DUI, and with driving without a license or after revocation. This man is only 36. He has been in and out of prison all his life. This is also the man "imminently" dying of alcoholism. He has something called an ARMS worker, which means he has mental health issues. He was raised poor by parents very much like he is. Both parents, and most family members, lived similar lives, and are dead. Mostly, he has been homeless for years. When he is in an apartment (as he was in difficult children, back when she still had an apartment ~ or a hotel room, for that matter), he has been evicted and blacklisted. (As difficult child is, now.) Maybe the value in telling this story here, if there is one, is for each of us to tell our difficult child kids this story. However hopeless their lives seem today, something like this can make the nightmare a thing impossible to come back from. Not only that. But how would this man have felt had he killed difficult child that day? Those are the kinds of things all our difficult children are looking at when they get behind the wheel all stressed out or drunk or high or whatever. The other thing for us to think about is that, if our kids leave treatment AMA, we need to do all we can to prevent them from having access to their vehicles. I am very grateful the man picked a stone wall to crash into, instead of another car. Driving really is a privilege, and a responsibility. It didn't occur to us to try to keep difficult children van away from her. I wish now that we had tried. Maybe one of the parents here will read this, and it will help some other difficult child. I had never really thought about how stupidly dangerous it is to drive after drinking or drugging or whatever. With difficult children, it is never going to be about having a drink with dinner. It's going to be driving totally whacked out. I just keep thinking that he's only 36. Barbara [/QUOTE]
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