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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 253262" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Trust your instincts. As long as older difficult child is relatively happy, and is being a productive person, well, not much you can do. I would keep my guard up though, because it sure seems like they jumped into it very quickly. Also, didn't she cheat on her husband with your difficult child? Then she is VERY highly likely to cheat on your son. This not only has emotional risks (esp for a volitle difficult child in the mix!) but it also carries real physical danger.</p><p></p><p>The risk of STDs when a person cheats on their spouse is very high. If you can at all talk to difficult child in a calm time, you might suggest that he have an STD panel run when he gets a physical or can get in to a doctor. Because teh chances he was teh first one she cheated with are low, and it greatly increases the risks to him.</p><p></p><p>Also, if he suspects her of cheating then he should go and get tested ASAP. Because it is LIFE that could be in danger. Also his ability to become a father can be jeopardized if he has an STD that goes untreated for any length of time (and most STDs have few if any symptoms in males anymore).</p><p></p><p>I know it will be a tricky thing to bring up. You don't want to imply she is cheating. She may not be at this time. heck, she might never cheat. But implying it to your son will severely alienate him, so be careful and cautious if you discuss this. </p><p></p><p>I am sorry you have this to worry about also. hopefully older difficult child is happy and things go very smoothly and she can prove in some way that she truly cares for your son.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 253262, member: 1233"] Trust your instincts. As long as older difficult child is relatively happy, and is being a productive person, well, not much you can do. I would keep my guard up though, because it sure seems like they jumped into it very quickly. Also, didn't she cheat on her husband with your difficult child? Then she is VERY highly likely to cheat on your son. This not only has emotional risks (esp for a volitle difficult child in the mix!) but it also carries real physical danger. The risk of STDs when a person cheats on their spouse is very high. If you can at all talk to difficult child in a calm time, you might suggest that he have an STD panel run when he gets a physical or can get in to a doctor. Because teh chances he was teh first one she cheated with are low, and it greatly increases the risks to him. Also, if he suspects her of cheating then he should go and get tested ASAP. Because it is LIFE that could be in danger. Also his ability to become a father can be jeopardized if he has an STD that goes untreated for any length of time (and most STDs have few if any symptoms in males anymore). I know it will be a tricky thing to bring up. You don't want to imply she is cheating. She may not be at this time. heck, she might never cheat. But implying it to your son will severely alienate him, so be careful and cautious if you discuss this. I am sorry you have this to worry about also. hopefully older difficult child is happy and things go very smoothly and she can prove in some way that she truly cares for your son. [/QUOTE]
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