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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 291658" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>WO - </p><p> </p><p>You know that last thing where you say I wish she would remember she used to HATE going to see her parents? That is just it. SHE used to. I think you need to gently remind her of that and then tell her that you are not her - and that you enjoy your visits with her and your daily emails. That she is NOT the burden your grandmother was to her - and that you enjoy and value your friendship with her, and reassure her of that. </p><p> </p><p>I think a lot of times we as children can pay for the sins of our Mothers if we don't set our Moms straight and even then sometimes it's a mute point - but at least in our minds we did the best we could to set the record straight. It sounds to me as if she's very lonely and has a need to get involved in something other than rehasing the past mistakes of her life. Maybe if she had a hobby, or something to keep her busy? </p><p> </p><p>I get so very little time with my Mom - I treasure every minute and I know you enjoy the time you do to - so tell her you don't want to waste a single minute and set the tone from the onset of the visit - by telling her there is something very important you want to speak to her about and go from there. Let her know she is and always will be number one in your heart, and that you also have other friends that you are going to see - but not spend as much time with while you're in Sanfran....and that while you are with them - it would be the best time to take bored easy child on a special granma /granddaughter once in a lifetime day - and ask her to plan the moon for it. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> You can help right? </p><p> </p><p>It's harder the older you get to break into a new "crowd" or game or anything as far as hobbies go - so don't expect miracles - but maybe take her to some places while you're there and introduce her and help her break the ice? </p><p> </p><p>I'm sorry she feels the way she does but I think you're just Warrior Daughter enough to set her straight once and for all - I'm rooting for you! </p><p> </p><p>Hugs </p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 291658, member: 4964"] WO - You know that last thing where you say I wish she would remember she used to HATE going to see her parents? That is just it. SHE used to. I think you need to gently remind her of that and then tell her that you are not her - and that you enjoy your visits with her and your daily emails. That she is NOT the burden your grandmother was to her - and that you enjoy and value your friendship with her, and reassure her of that. I think a lot of times we as children can pay for the sins of our Mothers if we don't set our Moms straight and even then sometimes it's a mute point - but at least in our minds we did the best we could to set the record straight. It sounds to me as if she's very lonely and has a need to get involved in something other than rehasing the past mistakes of her life. Maybe if she had a hobby, or something to keep her busy? I get so very little time with my Mom - I treasure every minute and I know you enjoy the time you do to - so tell her you don't want to waste a single minute and set the tone from the onset of the visit - by telling her there is something very important you want to speak to her about and go from there. Let her know she is and always will be number one in your heart, and that you also have other friends that you are going to see - but not spend as much time with while you're in Sanfran....and that while you are with them - it would be the best time to take bored easy child on a special granma /granddaughter once in a lifetime day - and ask her to plan the moon for it. :winking: You can help right? It's harder the older you get to break into a new "crowd" or game or anything as far as hobbies go - so don't expect miracles - but maybe take her to some places while you're there and introduce her and help her break the ice? I'm sorry she feels the way she does but I think you're just Warrior Daughter enough to set her straight once and for all - I'm rooting for you! Hugs Star [/QUOTE]
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