receiving from my mom are starting to make me feel horrible. We are going to visit the weekend of August 1st. She is upset because I am coming the weekend a friend from high school (that lives in San Francisco) will be in town. I try to do this to combine the visits together. She thinks I would not otherwise come to see her (if my friend wasn't going to be in town). This is not true but makes sense to combine the visits. Next e-mail is I never stay long enough (of course, she thinks it's because I don't love her and thinks I blame her for her divorcing my dad, again not true which I told her in the email). I explained to her that our visits are usually short for a couple reasons, one being that even though we have summers off, the kids are involved in activities (well at least difficult child is involved). I also told her that difficult child doesn't travel well which is true. Next e-mail is she still thinks I blame her for the divorce, she thinks I blame her for telling me on the phone (she didn't she told me in person-I remember). She thinks I visit only because I feel obligated (not true). She says easy child is bored always there. I told her easy child is always bored no matter where she is. She says she thinks she will be going into the psychiatric hospital soon because she is going through some things. I'm guessing these things are mostly me and my short visit although I know she was upset my niece went to our family reunion this weekend instead of coming to see her (it was a reunion on my dad's side). I am trying hard to detach from all this but I have to answer her daily emails or she thinks I'm mad. I'm trying to put it out of my mind but it has been bothering me all day long. Nothing I say in my emails seems to make a difference. I know better than to get her on the phone as she'll only cry, get upset and probably hang up. Mom is not an easy person to be around but I do love her, just not sure what to do. Wish she would remember that she used to hate going to visit her parents or my dad's parents, we rarely went. Thanks for listening, I'm just feeling bad tonight that nothing I say or do seems to help.