I am reading the Explosive Child. Each chapter states something about Can these children be helped? Of course... "but not with a reward and punishment program". My difficult child is ithe inflexible, unadaptable, child described throught what I've read so far. This weekend seemed like I was the advocate for my difficult child against my easy child's. The easy child's are constantly ridiculing his every action and I think I am learning some things but I may just be making it worse. My daughter and her son have been gone for 2 wks and are back. This is an invasion of the difficult child's space because they are temporarily sharing his room. My daughter put the car seat in the difficult child's place in the car. My difficult child was quite upset about this and moved the car seat. I totally understood this reaction due to what I have learned. The older child (21) had a fit about him moving the seat and wanted to know why he couldn't just move and deal with it. I'm thinking.... because he just can't. He doesn't think like that. I'm now viewing difficult child as a child who doesn't think about things the way we do and doesn't see the world the same. The older easy child's are looking at him as a spoiled brat who needs his rear end whipped. I really don't know if I'm making things better or worse. The bad part is that they are all home together today and tomorrow without me being there and I'm worried about difficult child. Any help? How do you discipline a difficult child? How do you help them? How do they help themselves?