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The Job Didn't Work Out - Again!
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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 519524" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Confuzzled--</p><p></p><p>Yeah, there is something more to the "forgetting", I'm sure...</p><p></p><p>I don't think she a<em>ctually </em>forgets - but that is the way she has gotten accustomed to explaining why things don't get done. I think she uses "forget" partly because it is an excuse that lets her off the hook. <em>difficult child why didn't you _____?</em> I forgot.<em> Oh, OK.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em></em>Eventually, though - the "I forgot" excuse wears thin and then she changes tactics. At home, for example, we no longer accept "I forgot" - so what we get instead is a logical reason why she doesn't <em>need</em> to do whatever it is.</p><p></p><p>She used "I forgot" so much with the therapist and psychiatrist that they began to look into the possibility that difficult child had serious memory issues. difficult child quickly dropped "I forgot" and now just argues with the therapist about why the therapist is wrong.</p><p></p><p>At school - "I forgot" still seems to be working...</p><p></p><p>But at the job? My suspicion based upon what I have been able to gather from her stories is that she "forgot" a lot when she worked there over the summer.</p><p></p><p>This time around? I think difficult child is no longer using "I forgot". One story she told us involves taking out the garbage. Yes, this is a restaurant - so this is food garbage. It is her job to take out the garbage as part of cleaning up. The boss was getting angry at her because she kept 'forgetting'. So then one night when she didn't take out the trash, she left him a note explaining that she didn't have a chance to do it. I imagine his reaction when he arrived to open the next morning and walked in to smell last night's trash, see the full can, and then find a note explaining why it couldn't be done. I'm sure he was furious!</p><p></p><p>So something is happening in her brain that is interfering with her ability to complete simple tasks. I don't think it's truly "forgetting" - but there does seem to be a disconnect somewhere.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 519524, member: 6546"] Confuzzled-- Yeah, there is something more to the "forgetting", I'm sure... I don't think she a[I]ctually [/I]forgets - but that is the way she has gotten accustomed to explaining why things don't get done. I think she uses "forget" partly because it is an excuse that lets her off the hook. [I]difficult child why didn't you _____?[/I] I forgot.[I] Oh, OK. [/I]Eventually, though - the "I forgot" excuse wears thin and then she changes tactics. At home, for example, we no longer accept "I forgot" - so what we get instead is a logical reason why she doesn't [I]need[/I] to do whatever it is. She used "I forgot" so much with the therapist and psychiatrist that they began to look into the possibility that difficult child had serious memory issues. difficult child quickly dropped "I forgot" and now just argues with the therapist about why the therapist is wrong. At school - "I forgot" still seems to be working... But at the job? My suspicion based upon what I have been able to gather from her stories is that she "forgot" a lot when she worked there over the summer. This time around? I think difficult child is no longer using "I forgot". One story she told us involves taking out the garbage. Yes, this is a restaurant - so this is food garbage. It is her job to take out the garbage as part of cleaning up. The boss was getting angry at her because she kept 'forgetting'. So then one night when she didn't take out the trash, she left him a note explaining that she didn't have a chance to do it. I imagine his reaction when he arrived to open the next morning and walked in to smell last night's trash, see the full can, and then find a note explaining why it couldn't be done. I'm sure he was furious! So something is happening in her brain that is interfering with her ability to complete simple tasks. I don't think it's truly "forgetting" - but there does seem to be a disconnect somewhere. [/QUOTE]
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