Skool Teacher
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So day 2,
I get an email at work that seemed sincere and somewhat optimistic about my daughter returning to get more her and my grand child’s things. I responded likewise with a positive tone and outlook on us having space and time to heal and that what I know for sure is that we can’t live under the same roof if we ever hope to have any type of relationship in the future. I apologized for my part in the toxic relationship we have and owned that it wasn’t all on her. I asked if I could still see and spend time with my GD and on her terms.
Well I think she was waiting on an opportunity to go off full blast on me. She let me have it again and then one more time! She went back to everything being my fault, said I was egotistical and judgmental, she brought up her dad, my husband and my degrees, my marriage, my house and all the other stuff that I have done to mess up her life. She also did exactly what I knew she was going to do… told me that would not get to see my grand daughter because I put her out, in the winter, right before Christmas during a pandemic! I know she wanted me to go back and forth with her but I didn’t. I told her whatever she decided as far as my granddaughter was concerned was her decision and it is what it is.
So the kickerS are that she came and got who knows what today because she didn’t take much of the babies clothes or shoes, she said she needed money until her check comes, wanted to know if I would continue to pay for her stuff that’s in storage and if I was going to keep paying her car insUranus. I was totally amazes and bedazzled at how she curses me in one breath but still needs my help in the next.
Well I’m done paying for storage as of 1st of the year, she either pays it or loses her stuff. I’m not giving her a dime to go buy weed and fast food and I’m on the fence about her car insurance simply because I know she needs transportation to go to work.
She wanted me to to ask her to stay and I didnt and can’t do this back and forth negativity and arguing with her anymore. She has to grow up and figure it out. I have to let go and trust God to handle this. At what point do I get to have a life that’s free of adult child drama?
I didn’t sleep well or at all last night and I was sad all day but those lady two emails my daughter sent today were the confirmation and kick to the head I needed to know I’m doing the right thing. Any thoughts or insight on my situation are welcomed.
Peace and sleep tonight,
Skool Teacher
I get an email at work that seemed sincere and somewhat optimistic about my daughter returning to get more her and my grand child’s things. I responded likewise with a positive tone and outlook on us having space and time to heal and that what I know for sure is that we can’t live under the same roof if we ever hope to have any type of relationship in the future. I apologized for my part in the toxic relationship we have and owned that it wasn’t all on her. I asked if I could still see and spend time with my GD and on her terms.
Well I think she was waiting on an opportunity to go off full blast on me. She let me have it again and then one more time! She went back to everything being my fault, said I was egotistical and judgmental, she brought up her dad, my husband and my degrees, my marriage, my house and all the other stuff that I have done to mess up her life. She also did exactly what I knew she was going to do… told me that would not get to see my grand daughter because I put her out, in the winter, right before Christmas during a pandemic! I know she wanted me to go back and forth with her but I didn’t. I told her whatever she decided as far as my granddaughter was concerned was her decision and it is what it is.
So the kickerS are that she came and got who knows what today because she didn’t take much of the babies clothes or shoes, she said she needed money until her check comes, wanted to know if I would continue to pay for her stuff that’s in storage and if I was going to keep paying her car insUranus. I was totally amazes and bedazzled at how she curses me in one breath but still needs my help in the next.
Well I’m done paying for storage as of 1st of the year, she either pays it or loses her stuff. I’m not giving her a dime to go buy weed and fast food and I’m on the fence about her car insurance simply because I know she needs transportation to go to work.
She wanted me to to ask her to stay and I didnt and can’t do this back and forth negativity and arguing with her anymore. She has to grow up and figure it out. I have to let go and trust God to handle this. At what point do I get to have a life that’s free of adult child drama?
I didn’t sleep well or at all last night and I was sad all day but those lady two emails my daughter sent today were the confirmation and kick to the head I needed to know I’m doing the right thing. Any thoughts or insight on my situation are welcomed.
Peace and sleep tonight,
Skool Teacher
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