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Jena's post got me to thinking about how it's the little things that set off some of our gsgf. For instance, this summer we introduced tennis and it's been mostly good. He takes lessons weekly and husband and his friends take manster to practice a day or so a week and so many little things set him off. If someone wins he thinks they are gloating and making fun of him, especially if it's 2 against 1 (upon his insistance that he take them both on). If someone hits a shot too close, too hard, too far away, it puts in into a mood.
It's not just tennis. It's every day stuff. If we raise our voice in the slightest, we are yelling at him. He perceives everything as bigger than what it is and personal. Then he gets in defense mode, persnickety and major mood and gets either mouthy or throws something. This is the point at which if taken on in the wrong way can set into action WW3. I'm good at diffusing it, husband not so much.
I don't want to walk around on eggshells and I know the others in his life aren't going to, nor should they have to. I try to tell manster to let it go. Yesterday he said "but I have so many things to let go, everyone hates me". Oy. I told him I know, it's hard, but keep up th good work. What else can I say?
Has anyone found a way to manage the low frustration, oversensitive, now adding in hormones overdrive? Any practical advice or just a few "me too's"?
It's not just tennis. It's every day stuff. If we raise our voice in the slightest, we are yelling at him. He perceives everything as bigger than what it is and personal. Then he gets in defense mode, persnickety and major mood and gets either mouthy or throws something. This is the point at which if taken on in the wrong way can set into action WW3. I'm good at diffusing it, husband not so much.
I don't want to walk around on eggshells and I know the others in his life aren't going to, nor should they have to. I try to tell manster to let it go. Yesterday he said "but I have so many things to let go, everyone hates me". Oy. I told him I know, it's hard, but keep up th good work. What else can I say?
Has anyone found a way to manage the low frustration, oversensitive, now adding in hormones overdrive? Any practical advice or just a few "me too's"?