There ended up being a total of nine of us in the meeting to discuss "options" for my 16 yr. old... Me, husband, 16 yr. old, three social workers and a social worker intern, our family counselor and the facilitator of course. Not one of us could come up with anything more than me having to bring my daughter home even though she is threatening suicide or to run away if she has to come back here... OH and they decided FOR me that I'll be getting myself and the 2 yr. old up in the mornings at 5:00 am to take the 16 yr. old across town so she can attend the school of her choice. The facilitator at one point during this meeting questioned WHY I wouldn't just take the label of "unfit parent" if it meant helping my child... HOW does that help?!?! Sure it helps the state place her into a facility, but what does it do to me, my other children and the relationship with the 16 yr. old would be non-existent then, and that's helpful? The ONLY thing I feel we have going for us is our social worker... she seems to understand a lot more than I thought she would. She actually got us a voucher to pay for half of the door/window alarm system we are going to have to put in. The 16 yr. old has THREE diagnosis at this point and the ONLY one I'm even coming close to agreeing with is the ODD (it's CD ((and even more than CD)) but our counselor doesn't want her to have that diagnosis on her record?) The Major Depressive Disorder, Moderate is a scam (while in the hospital she was looked at/watched while not being engaged with any staff or doctor... the psychiatrist told me she was a great actress, and he believed she might be depressed about some things but there wasn't a disorder) and then there is this Adjustment Disorder with Mixed Disturbance of emotion and Conduct? I don't understand anything I read about it! In the end, I'm going through a(nother) behavior modification book right now and it actually makes a lot of sense to me. Positive Parenting With A Plan by Matthew A. Johnson, Psy.D. Legally I have to bring her home, even if she's threatening to kill herself or run away. I can't call the police or 911 unless she does something to herself or to us or runs away... I could sit here and cry all day! WHY do we have to wait for whats coming? WHY can't something be done BEFORE someone gets hurt? WHY can't I get any help for my daughter?