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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 523822" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Hmmm. Maybe you and Imf64 need to come for lessons from me and Susie, Tedo. It's a fine art, needed to be mentored to learn to use effectively. My grandmother had it down pat. And in all the years I lived with her I never ever needed to be disciplined. The look was enough. (and I was a difficult child) My mom had it too but often ruined it with yelling, so she wound up resorting to physical punishment. So with her the Look meant pain. With gramma it wasn't like that. She had what she called The Power. lol </p><p></p><p>Travis had/has issues with most facial expressions/tones/innuendos ect......but the Mom Look, he totally responded to instantly, same with the Voice. Only time he didn't was during a rage or when he did the autistic zoning out thing. (but I never had to use it for the zoning out thing either as he was just vacant during those times)</p><p></p><p>And as Janet said, never underestimate a well place finger......works better with fingernails. You could try that in combo with the Mom Look/Voice to run your point home. I have found fingernails in the armpit with just enough pressure does wonders, works good on the inside of the upper arm too. Once my kids decided to yelp (this was nearly always used in public) to gain sympathy.....which is when they quickly discovered that Mom wasn't using anywhere near the amount of pressure they thought I was and it cut that yelp off fast. </p><p></p><p>I have to bite my lip to keep from laughing at grandson Connor who is about 19-20 mos, and as you can imagine quite good at finding trouble and is already showing autistic traits. Nana says No with the Mom Voice and he stops cold. He'll look at me and frown with the cutest frown ever, but he won't go back to whatever it was he was doing.........until he forgets and has to try it again. lol </p><p></p><p>Now Brandon is a little tougher because he was pretty spoiled before Connor arrived. But he's learned Nana is no nonsense rather quickly. He likes to push the boundaries and I think he might have inherited my stubbornness. But so far I can out stubborn him. If I can out stubborn Travis, I can out stubborn anyone. whew</p><p></p><p>I dunno. It has to be done with attitude. You don't hope it works, you just know it will sort of thing. Sort of a subconscious certainty. I never have *thought* about doing it........I just DO. I think it's a skill that has is becoming lost with all the "modern" forms of parenting.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 523822, member: 84"] Hmmm. Maybe you and Imf64 need to come for lessons from me and Susie, Tedo. It's a fine art, needed to be mentored to learn to use effectively. My grandmother had it down pat. And in all the years I lived with her I never ever needed to be disciplined. The look was enough. (and I was a difficult child) My mom had it too but often ruined it with yelling, so she wound up resorting to physical punishment. So with her the Look meant pain. With gramma it wasn't like that. She had what she called The Power. lol Travis had/has issues with most facial expressions/tones/innuendos ect......but the Mom Look, he totally responded to instantly, same with the Voice. Only time he didn't was during a rage or when he did the autistic zoning out thing. (but I never had to use it for the zoning out thing either as he was just vacant during those times) And as Janet said, never underestimate a well place finger......works better with fingernails. You could try that in combo with the Mom Look/Voice to run your point home. I have found fingernails in the armpit with just enough pressure does wonders, works good on the inside of the upper arm too. Once my kids decided to yelp (this was nearly always used in public) to gain sympathy.....which is when they quickly discovered that Mom wasn't using anywhere near the amount of pressure they thought I was and it cut that yelp off fast. I have to bite my lip to keep from laughing at grandson Connor who is about 19-20 mos, and as you can imagine quite good at finding trouble and is already showing autistic traits. Nana says No with the Mom Voice and he stops cold. He'll look at me and frown with the cutest frown ever, but he won't go back to whatever it was he was doing.........until he forgets and has to try it again. lol Now Brandon is a little tougher because he was pretty spoiled before Connor arrived. But he's learned Nana is no nonsense rather quickly. He likes to push the boundaries and I think he might have inherited my stubbornness. But so far I can out stubborn him. If I can out stubborn Travis, I can out stubborn anyone. whew I dunno. It has to be done with attitude. You don't hope it works, you just know it will sort of thing. Sort of a subconscious certainty. I never have *thought* about doing it........I just DO. I think it's a skill that has is becoming lost with all the "modern" forms of parenting. [/QUOTE]
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