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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 630165" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>I didn't go to any family meetings.</p><p></p><p>I went up to a house on a lake for the week instead, Saturday to Saturday. On Tuesday his caseworker called (not Stephanie...hand off). To let me know he was being discharged, had medications for 5 days and a referral to a shelter as well as a program called "rehab after work."</p><p></p><p>His dad was leaving town the next day. </p><p></p><p>He called me from a public phone (actually a hospital)...so I picked up , not knowing it was he. He didn't ask me for help or to come home. He said he went to the shelter but it was full of crackheads. He said he was going to follow up with the rehab, try to get into a halfway house, stay clean, etc. He said he had been scared when he admitted himself, that it is hard to stay clean on the streets, a few other things. </p><p></p><p>I did some soul searching, feeling strongly that he was doomed if he had no resources.</p><p></p><p>And I thought about RE's frequent comment that we should do what we can do without resentment.</p><p></p><p>So I invited him to the lake (it is always easier to be with him when he is away from home). His dad gave him bus fare, and he came up. </p><p></p><p>He did fine. He was polite, respectful, helpful, and socialbe with our guests (he often withdraws into his room, but didn't). He didn't ask for money or help, but did ask about chores and helping out. SO mentioned a friend of his with 10 years in AA, who still goes 9 x/week. difficult child asked on our last night if he could call the friend..he said he felt anxious about returning home. He called, they talked, and somehow I ended up at an AA barbecue with SO and difficult child and best friend the next night.</p><p></p><p>I told him he could stay a few days.</p><p></p><p>Today he went to two AA meetings with the friend (this required getting up at 5 AM to take public transportation to a 7 AM meeting out of town). He walked the dogs for me. He visited a friend in rehab. Who knows what else he did.</p><p></p><p>He has change in his pocket from his dad but nothing else.</p><p></p><p>Tomorrow he has an interview at a half way house, and is looking at another, and calling another. He is going to a meeting, and also to rehab after work.</p><p></p><p>We'll see.</p><p></p><p>I don't feel happy having him here, but I have to live with myself, and this time felt a little different.</p><p></p><p>I'm not blind...I doubt this will be the magic turn around But a few days more, a few days clean, a little more effort...who knows.</p><p></p><p>I didn't want to preside over his failure.</p><p></p><p>I don't really ahve an exit strategy if he fails to get into transitional housing.</p><p></p><p>We haven't talked about who will pay for that.</p><p></p><p>Now you know it all!</p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 630165, member: 17269"] I didn't go to any family meetings. I went up to a house on a lake for the week instead, Saturday to Saturday. On Tuesday his caseworker called (not Stephanie...hand off). To let me know he was being discharged, had medications for 5 days and a referral to a shelter as well as a program called "rehab after work." His dad was leaving town the next day. He called me from a public phone (actually a hospital)...so I picked up , not knowing it was he. He didn't ask me for help or to come home. He said he went to the shelter but it was full of crackheads. He said he was going to follow up with the rehab, try to get into a halfway house, stay clean, etc. He said he had been scared when he admitted himself, that it is hard to stay clean on the streets, a few other things. I did some soul searching, feeling strongly that he was doomed if he had no resources. And I thought about RE's frequent comment that we should do what we can do without resentment. So I invited him to the lake (it is always easier to be with him when he is away from home). His dad gave him bus fare, and he came up. He did fine. He was polite, respectful, helpful, and socialbe with our guests (he often withdraws into his room, but didn't). He didn't ask for money or help, but did ask about chores and helping out. SO mentioned a friend of his with 10 years in AA, who still goes 9 x/week. difficult child asked on our last night if he could call the friend..he said he felt anxious about returning home. He called, they talked, and somehow I ended up at an AA barbecue with SO and difficult child and best friend the next night. I told him he could stay a few days. Today he went to two AA meetings with the friend (this required getting up at 5 AM to take public transportation to a 7 AM meeting out of town). He walked the dogs for me. He visited a friend in rehab. Who knows what else he did. He has change in his pocket from his dad but nothing else. Tomorrow he has an interview at a half way house, and is looking at another, and calling another. He is going to a meeting, and also to rehab after work. We'll see. I don't feel happy having him here, but I have to live with myself, and this time felt a little different. I'm not blind...I doubt this will be the magic turn around But a few days more, a few days clean, a little more effort...who knows. I didn't want to preside over his failure. I don't really ahve an exit strategy if he fails to get into transitional housing. We haven't talked about who will pay for that. Now you know it all! Echo [/QUOTE]
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