That is me being a little cynical. But I would like some opinions/advice. difficult child has continued to thrash around since I cut off all contact 2 weeks ago (due to his ongoing heroin use, choice to live under a bridge/homeless for two years, and generally persistent downward slide). He told his dad that he was going to sign into rehab just so I would talk to him again. Remember he has Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) in addition to schizoaffective disorder, so he is quite "different" socially. And he loves me. So he did get admitted to a psychiatric hospital just outside town. I would say conservatively this is his 12th such admission, 4 of which were last summer. The social worker called...like so many she is female, young, earnest, and believes it is possible to help difficult child. He told her we are rarely in contact. I clarified that he called me several times a day and saw me at least once a week until two weeks ago. She was disappointed to hear that his self-described closest intimate friend has only known him for a week. I gave her the usual history (wilderness treatemtn, therapeutic boarding school, homelessness, drug abuse, rehab, repeated hosptiatlizations, etc etc) . We talked about his various diagnoses, and what medications have helped (although nothing "fixes") him in the past. She said he is willing to take medications. She said he is not ready to commit to inpatient rehab. He is willing to consider outpatient (at this point my eyes are rolling in my head because we have been ehre so many times before). She said he was eager to have me and his dad come to a planning meeting, and she wanted to know if I would come. The smartest thing I did today was say..."let me think about that a bit". so now I ask you, my friends in thisjourney....do I go? I don't think I want to. It was hard to say that to her. Its hard to think of her telling him. Its hard to say it to myself. But I don't think I will go. I've been to so many of these meetings, and they are meaningless. He won't follow up. He isn't ready to commit to stopping using, to structure. He'll leave with a scrip for litium and a list of referrals. Why would I put myself through that frustration? I guess I answered my own question. If he wants to get better he will do it on his own. Right? Echo--AKA David's mom.