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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 517070" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi there. Many of us have dealt with or deal with adult difficult child's. Who knows what went on in college? I really don't want to send my youngest daughter away to college because I know what goes on there and it's not all learning (at least not the right things). </p><p></p><p>You can not do anything for your daughter any longer. Nothing. She is old enough to make her own choices and not listen to you and she is choosing not to listen to you. However...as hard as it is, I would stop sending her money. You don't know if she is spending it on the babies or if she takes drugs or uses it for partying. If you want to, send diapears and bring her food, heavy on baby food. I wouldn't hand her a dime. And then I'd start the long grieving process of losing that perfect child. Many of us had to do that. I am one whose child actually has been gone from our lives now for six years by his choice and I don't expect him back. After the grieving process ended, and I got therapy, I now focus on those who do love and appreciate me and treat me well...those who want what I can offer them. Your daughter may still grow up one day, but you can't make her do it. She probably acts resentful and huffy when you give her advice and calling you "psychotic"...well, if she's so well-balanced let her get her life together on her own. YOU can still have a wonderful, fulfilling life.</p><p></p><p>These precious years, when our kids are grown up, are the time we should focus on ourselves and, if we are married, our spouses, friends, and cordial children/grandchildren. in my opinion it's time to smell the roses and be grateful for all the little things life has to offer. We can not control anybody in the world except ourselves. You can't control your daughter and her choices. But you can try to move on with your own life. </p><p></p><p>I do strongly recommend therapy. Hugs!!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 517070, member: 1550"] Hi there. Many of us have dealt with or deal with adult difficult child's. Who knows what went on in college? I really don't want to send my youngest daughter away to college because I know what goes on there and it's not all learning (at least not the right things). You can not do anything for your daughter any longer. Nothing. She is old enough to make her own choices and not listen to you and she is choosing not to listen to you. However...as hard as it is, I would stop sending her money. You don't know if she is spending it on the babies or if she takes drugs or uses it for partying. If you want to, send diapears and bring her food, heavy on baby food. I wouldn't hand her a dime. And then I'd start the long grieving process of losing that perfect child. Many of us had to do that. I am one whose child actually has been gone from our lives now for six years by his choice and I don't expect him back. After the grieving process ended, and I got therapy, I now focus on those who do love and appreciate me and treat me well...those who want what I can offer them. Your daughter may still grow up one day, but you can't make her do it. She probably acts resentful and huffy when you give her advice and calling you "psychotic"...well, if she's so well-balanced let her get her life together on her own. YOU can still have a wonderful, fulfilling life. These precious years, when our kids are grown up, are the time we should focus on ourselves and, if we are married, our spouses, friends, and cordial children/grandchildren. in my opinion it's time to smell the roses and be grateful for all the little things life has to offer. We can not control anybody in the world except ourselves. You can't control your daughter and her choices. But you can try to move on with your own life. I do strongly recommend therapy. Hugs!!!! [/QUOTE]
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