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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 283257" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>So sorry the cop interview got scuttled. It's not right... all I can suggest, is that you handle her gently and have a quiet word to the police (who MUST have seen what was going on, they must have seen the same scenario many times before) and after you've had little cherub for a few weeks, then arrange for a more balanced interview, preferably in calmer surroundings. Taking her to the police station was almost a claculated move to terrify the little girl into keeping silent, for fear she would lose the people inher life tatshe loves.</p><p></p><p>From past postsabout this situaiton, this mother seems to use blame a lot, even where it's totally inappropriate. "It's YOUR fault my life isn't my own, to come and go as I want to," seems to be the message she keeps sending little cherub. And she is using you to try to reclaim her freedom of movement and abdicate her responsibilities.</p><p></p><p>The bio-mum did the right thing to let you know of the inappropriate touching. But the ramifications of the situation have apparently shot home siince and she's thought about who could be doing this, when, how and why, and is 'rewriting' the possible scenario to what SHE wants it to be, and then trying to use control over little cherub to reinforce this 'truth'.</p><p></p><p>If bio-mum has been using this approach on little cherub all along, simply as an upbringing tool, it's no wonder she's got encopresis and other control issues.</p><p></p><p>I'm glad you see the "using" signs, I'm also glad you're there for this darling and her siblings.</p><p></p><p>Sorry about the prednisone - I asked my GP today if I could stop taking mine. She said no, I have to get the specialist's OK and I see him next week. I still haven't got a definitive diagnosis of whooping cough, I need more blood tests in a fortnight, but it's looking likely.</p><p></p><p>One blessing for you with the prednisone - it should at least keep your asthma under control while you need to be on deck.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 283257, member: 1991"] So sorry the cop interview got scuttled. It's not right... all I can suggest, is that you handle her gently and have a quiet word to the police (who MUST have seen what was going on, they must have seen the same scenario many times before) and after you've had little cherub for a few weeks, then arrange for a more balanced interview, preferably in calmer surroundings. Taking her to the police station was almost a claculated move to terrify the little girl into keeping silent, for fear she would lose the people inher life tatshe loves. From past postsabout this situaiton, this mother seems to use blame a lot, even where it's totally inappropriate. "It's YOUR fault my life isn't my own, to come and go as I want to," seems to be the message she keeps sending little cherub. And she is using you to try to reclaim her freedom of movement and abdicate her responsibilities. The bio-mum did the right thing to let you know of the inappropriate touching. But the ramifications of the situation have apparently shot home siince and she's thought about who could be doing this, when, how and why, and is 'rewriting' the possible scenario to what SHE wants it to be, and then trying to use control over little cherub to reinforce this 'truth'. If bio-mum has been using this approach on little cherub all along, simply as an upbringing tool, it's no wonder she's got encopresis and other control issues. I'm glad you see the "using" signs, I'm also glad you're there for this darling and her siblings. Sorry about the prednisone - I asked my GP today if I could stop taking mine. She said no, I have to get the specialist's OK and I see him next week. I still haven't got a definitive diagnosis of whooping cough, I need more blood tests in a fortnight, but it's looking likely. One blessing for you with the prednisone - it should at least keep your asthma under control while you need to be on deck. Hang in there. Marg [/QUOTE]
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