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The saga continues..know its not new to most of you, but feel the need to write...
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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 585884"><p>Oh Rose - I too have been there done that. I am sending you lots of supportive hugs.</p><p></p><p>I remember writing in my journal that if we made the bar any lower, we would have to start digging a hole. At some point - you just have to say enough is enough. If you don't stand for something, you will fall for anything. My own pcs were 13 and 16 -- and good as gold - but please know that your 12 year old is watching. You have to set standards and enforce them. When I was new here, and pouring out a story much like yours, one of the regular posters basically took me to task and told me that when I placated my difficult child, I handed him all the control. We had spent 3 months with difficult child under our roof afraid trying to ignore the obvious issues, trying not to make waves and go with the flow. It back fired badly because we did hand him the control. Until it got too far and he left and my family was fractured.</p><p></p><p>You did the right thing by sitting him down and spelling out the ground rules. I am one who always agrees that we have to get them into help by any means possible - so if it means that you let him back home as a trial - you do that. But stick to those ground rules. For yourself and your easy child. It will be the hardest thing in the world, remember the resolve you have today and draw on it if necessary. I wish you peace in the days ahead.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 585884"] Oh Rose - I too have been there done that. I am sending you lots of supportive hugs. I remember writing in my journal that if we made the bar any lower, we would have to start digging a hole. At some point - you just have to say enough is enough. If you don't stand for something, you will fall for anything. My own pcs were 13 and 16 -- and good as gold - but please know that your 12 year old is watching. You have to set standards and enforce them. When I was new here, and pouring out a story much like yours, one of the regular posters basically took me to task and told me that when I placated my difficult child, I handed him all the control. We had spent 3 months with difficult child under our roof afraid trying to ignore the obvious issues, trying not to make waves and go with the flow. It back fired badly because we did hand him the control. Until it got too far and he left and my family was fractured. You did the right thing by sitting him down and spelling out the ground rules. I am one who always agrees that we have to get them into help by any means possible - so if it means that you let him back home as a trial - you do that. But stick to those ground rules. For yourself and your easy child. It will be the hardest thing in the world, remember the resolve you have today and draw on it if necessary. I wish you peace in the days ahead. [/QUOTE]
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