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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 449481" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Well-----On the opposite end of the coin......</p><p></p><p>Last year I was in the Goodwill center......it's the place where ALL the merchandise from ALL the retail stores comes when it doesn't sell in the goodwill stores that is donated. It's the Clearance Center. Now sometimes stuff that comes through there is nice - but most of the time? It's a rat race to get it unless you go there all the time, and know exactly what to look for. </p><p></p><p>So there is this lady. Rather demented, and she had picked three names off the local Angel tree. Okay so she had her buggy and in it? Were the "gifts" she was gifting for the three families. Now one year I can honestly say that Dude and I were nominated as recipients and I had NO clue someone did it for us. It was the first year I had left my X, we had been homeless, and I had just gotten a job, JUST gotten a place for us to live, and JUST gotten back on my feet. I didn't take charity from ANYONE, and I wasn't getting assistance except for 1 month of foodstamps. So this was a huge shock to go to the fair grounds and pick up toys for Dude - there was a basket there for me as well. It just made me cry because it was ALL new things. But....this demented woman in the Goodwill? </p><p></p><p>She was telling me how she picked THREE names off the Angel tree every year, and shopped at the GW - for each of the kids on the lists she got. While I got her heart felt meaning. The things that she picked were very dirty, tattered, worn. The things that were asked by the family were NECESSARY items. Socks, shoes, a coat. The mother asked for a toaster, and while there are toasters at the dollar store for I think $10.00 new, and some that come in there that are LIKE new...the one she picked had roach poop on it, and was filthy. She said She even found a bag to just DROP it in. SO......Three families that year I'm sure were going to be very appreciative for her shopping. I'm not sure how things like that are handled when she would have dropped her items off - but When you can just go and grab names off the tree - or NOT be responsible for at least getting a child a clean used toy? I've never minded second hand anything - I raised Dude like that but he's NEVER asked for anything fancy. </p><p></p><p>Hound........I think there is a reason you are in Katies life - I have no doubts now. And before I pound her into the dirt......I'd say this much. After SO many years of her not having anything or taking what they did have and spending it for stupid things? I can see where she'd run to get all the free stuff she could and not think bad of herself - she's stockpiling. YES it infuriates everyone. But to her? It's a planning event, not so much taking from others.....because SHE HAS BEEN....."others" for so long to her this is how you survive. No one has ever done FOR her like you - so I think this is just knee jerk reaction to "If It's free- we must go, get and save it for when BAD happens." Not defending what she did or her today actions - but maybe this is what is going on in her mind - for her TOMORROW thiniking. If I lived with M? I know it sounds illogical - but maybe I'd grab all I could too since he's never really done anything for them - it's been up to her to do what she could, how she could. NO doubt - the thing today - NOT right. But it's good that you are there to guide her and help her and the kids. - Lesson learned.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 449481, member: 4964"] Well-----On the opposite end of the coin...... Last year I was in the Goodwill center......it's the place where ALL the merchandise from ALL the retail stores comes when it doesn't sell in the goodwill stores that is donated. It's the Clearance Center. Now sometimes stuff that comes through there is nice - but most of the time? It's a rat race to get it unless you go there all the time, and know exactly what to look for. So there is this lady. Rather demented, and she had picked three names off the local Angel tree. Okay so she had her buggy and in it? Were the "gifts" she was gifting for the three families. Now one year I can honestly say that Dude and I were nominated as recipients and I had NO clue someone did it for us. It was the first year I had left my X, we had been homeless, and I had just gotten a job, JUST gotten a place for us to live, and JUST gotten back on my feet. I didn't take charity from ANYONE, and I wasn't getting assistance except for 1 month of foodstamps. So this was a huge shock to go to the fair grounds and pick up toys for Dude - there was a basket there for me as well. It just made me cry because it was ALL new things. But....this demented woman in the Goodwill? She was telling me how she picked THREE names off the Angel tree every year, and shopped at the GW - for each of the kids on the lists she got. While I got her heart felt meaning. The things that she picked were very dirty, tattered, worn. The things that were asked by the family were NECESSARY items. Socks, shoes, a coat. The mother asked for a toaster, and while there are toasters at the dollar store for I think $10.00 new, and some that come in there that are LIKE new...the one she picked had roach poop on it, and was filthy. She said She even found a bag to just DROP it in. SO......Three families that year I'm sure were going to be very appreciative for her shopping. I'm not sure how things like that are handled when she would have dropped her items off - but When you can just go and grab names off the tree - or NOT be responsible for at least getting a child a clean used toy? I've never minded second hand anything - I raised Dude like that but he's NEVER asked for anything fancy. Hound........I think there is a reason you are in Katies life - I have no doubts now. And before I pound her into the dirt......I'd say this much. After SO many years of her not having anything or taking what they did have and spending it for stupid things? I can see where she'd run to get all the free stuff she could and not think bad of herself - she's stockpiling. YES it infuriates everyone. But to her? It's a planning event, not so much taking from others.....because SHE HAS BEEN....."others" for so long to her this is how you survive. No one has ever done FOR her like you - so I think this is just knee jerk reaction to "If It's free- we must go, get and save it for when BAD happens." Not defending what she did or her today actions - but maybe this is what is going on in her mind - for her TOMORROW thiniking. If I lived with M? I know it sounds illogical - but maybe I'd grab all I could too since he's never really done anything for them - it's been up to her to do what she could, how she could. NO doubt - the thing today - NOT right. But it's good that you are there to guide her and help her and the kids. - Lesson learned. [/QUOTE]
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