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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 498867"><p>Ah I too have been down this road. It worries me what my son pits on FB.... i mean some of it is not stuff he should be putting out there in public, and like you it is very hard to tell what is truth and what is lies. Rigth now he has me as a friend on fb (and I never put anything on his wall because I know he will then block me). </p><p></p><p>You are right there is nothing you can do. It is very hard to sit with the uncertainty of their lives and where they are headed... but sit with it we must because there is nothing else we can do.</p><p></p><p>As far as the mental health issues... we have that too. I know at a minimum m son has a mood disorder... but there have also been real questions about a personality disorder. I really don't know. What I have learned from various rehabs and treatment is that although it is good to look at both, you really can't get a clear mental health diagnosis while they are still using. They need to stop using substances first. Not the prescribed medications of course.. but the ones they are abusing.</p><p></p><p>So really all you can do is let them know you will help them when they want to get help and that you won't enable them. That is where we are at..... and it has been a definite roller coaster. The one thing that I keep holding onto is that this particular ride started in September with my son seeking help and checking himself into a psychiatric unit. I did not do it for him or insist upon it in any way. He has relapsed and screwed up several times since then but I believe somewhere that he really does want help and wants a better life. I will continue to support him on his path to recovery but I am done enabling him when he screws up.</p><p></p><p>Alanon is very helpful... glad you are going and keep that up!!!</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 498867"] Ah I too have been down this road. It worries me what my son pits on FB.... i mean some of it is not stuff he should be putting out there in public, and like you it is very hard to tell what is truth and what is lies. Rigth now he has me as a friend on fb (and I never put anything on his wall because I know he will then block me). You are right there is nothing you can do. It is very hard to sit with the uncertainty of their lives and where they are headed... but sit with it we must because there is nothing else we can do. As far as the mental health issues... we have that too. I know at a minimum m son has a mood disorder... but there have also been real questions about a personality disorder. I really don't know. What I have learned from various rehabs and treatment is that although it is good to look at both, you really can't get a clear mental health diagnosis while they are still using. They need to stop using substances first. Not the prescribed medications of course.. but the ones they are abusing. So really all you can do is let them know you will help them when they want to get help and that you won't enable them. That is where we are at..... and it has been a definite roller coaster. The one thing that I keep holding onto is that this particular ride started in September with my son seeking help and checking himself into a psychiatric unit. I did not do it for him or insist upon it in any way. He has relapsed and screwed up several times since then but I believe somewhere that he really does want help and wants a better life. I will continue to support him on his path to recovery but I am done enabling him when he screws up. Alanon is very helpful... glad you are going and keep that up!!! TL [/QUOTE]
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