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The truth...or not the truth?
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<blockquote data-quote="rejectedmom" data-source="post: 498954" data-attributes="member: 2315"><p>I am sorry that you are finding out things that you were unaware of about your difficult child. But...I am not sure this is a healthy thing for you to do since he is an adult. When I was in therapy doing my Co-dependant recovery work (which is a lifelong thing though therapy isn't). I was told that co-dependants need to let go and stop going crazy trying to track them on the internet and other ways. They told me that by doing that I was allowing my difficult child's actions to direct my life and my happiness and giving him power over me. I was reluctant to stop. I was afraid that I would be blindsided by something big etc. But I did stop and it was very freeing. Was I blindsided? Sure, but even if I was looking for stuff that could have happened. By not obsessing I had many more good days than I did when I was tracking his activities. I think keyloggers are good when you are dealing with a minor that you have legal control over. I think investigating a hunch ocassionaly is ok but hacking his account and reading his messages on a regular basis is not a healthy way to exist. Take care of yourself and protect yourself but do not let his behavior direct your life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rejectedmom, post: 498954, member: 2315"] I am sorry that you are finding out things that you were unaware of about your difficult child. But...I am not sure this is a healthy thing for you to do since he is an adult. When I was in therapy doing my Co-dependant recovery work (which is a lifelong thing though therapy isn't). I was told that co-dependants need to let go and stop going crazy trying to track them on the internet and other ways. They told me that by doing that I was allowing my difficult child's actions to direct my life and my happiness and giving him power over me. I was reluctant to stop. I was afraid that I would be blindsided by something big etc. But I did stop and it was very freeing. Was I blindsided? Sure, but even if I was looking for stuff that could have happened. By not obsessing I had many more good days than I did when I was tracking his activities. I think keyloggers are good when you are dealing with a minor that you have legal control over. I think investigating a hunch ocassionaly is ok but hacking his account and reading his messages on a regular basis is not a healthy way to exist. Take care of yourself and protect yourself but do not let his behavior direct your life. [/QUOTE]
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