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therapist told difficult child to move back home (our home) with or without E
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 547915" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Having been on both sides of that one, (moved in with my parents when I was married to my difficult child's Dad a hundred years ago and difficult child moved in with me for a short time this year) it's a dicey issue. If you are really considering it, certainly first ask the therapist why she made that comment, it does seem quite presumptuous, I agree. She may have some insights you haven't considered. And then I would seriously think this through with husband, write a pros and cons list, negotiate with the kids, come up with a very good plan of action. I recall taking a workshop years ago about business communication and it had a 3 step plan which is good for all negotiations. First have a conversation for Possibilities where you just throw out all the options. Wait a few days or a week and then have a conversation again discussing the options after everyone has digested the data. Wait a few days and then have a conversation for Action, where you put the plan into play with all the boundaries, outlines, steps needed to carry it out. It's been helpful for me. It gives the time necessary to look at the whole picture and not to make quick decisions based on emotions. In any case, I would say, proceed with caution, but with an open mind. And, if you do it, have an end date, where everyone knows it's time for them to move on.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 547915, member: 13542"] Having been on both sides of that one, (moved in with my parents when I was married to my difficult child's Dad a hundred years ago and difficult child moved in with me for a short time this year) it's a dicey issue. If you are really considering it, certainly first ask the therapist why she made that comment, it does seem quite presumptuous, I agree. She may have some insights you haven't considered. And then I would seriously think this through with husband, write a pros and cons list, negotiate with the kids, come up with a very good plan of action. I recall taking a workshop years ago about business communication and it had a 3 step plan which is good for all negotiations. First have a conversation for Possibilities where you just throw out all the options. Wait a few days or a week and then have a conversation again discussing the options after everyone has digested the data. Wait a few days and then have a conversation for Action, where you put the plan into play with all the boundaries, outlines, steps needed to carry it out. It's been helpful for me. It gives the time necessary to look at the whole picture and not to make quick decisions based on emotions. In any case, I would say, proceed with caution, but with an open mind. And, if you do it, have an end date, where everyone knows it's time for them to move on. [/QUOTE]
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