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THEY didn't call - THEY never said sorry
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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 143736" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>Star, I really and truly don't like to start my mornings crying but your comment, "I so want to be a part of his life" is exactly how it is here. I've accepted crumbs to be part of my daughter's life so many times. For those crumbs, I gave her cake. I think it has finally stopped.</p><p> </p><p>I will no longer rearrange my schedule to accommodate her and her desires. I am not tearing up my house and my things so she can have whatever. I truly have reached the point where she will not treat me as something she can walk all over, she will not talk to me with total disrespect, she will not .... </p><p> </p><p>You've found with Dude that when you walk away, he runs after you and becomes a bit of the son you want. Well, you did it at court and it worked, it is time to do it at home. The next time he wants to do something, give him YOUR schedule. Don't let him dictate when he will come or go. It really is okay to use your home to meet someone, provided he give you at least 30 minutes of visiting and that 30 minutes be civil. If he can't do that, then he should meet elsewhere -- preferably an open road on a cold, windy, wet day. If he wants a ride, he pays for the gas unless you truly happen to be going the same way. No respect in your home means he leaves it immediately. </p><p> </p><p>Maybe with enough practice, we'll both get this detachment with love thing right. We both love our kids and have done the very best we could to raise them. We really do deserve at least some respect for not killing them along the way.</p><p> </p><p>I know I am making my mantra "Do not make someone a priority to whom you are but an option." (Okay, I paraphrased a bit -- I'm a grammar nut.)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 143736, member: 3626"] Star, I really and truly don't like to start my mornings crying but your comment, "I so want to be a part of his life" is exactly how it is here. I've accepted crumbs to be part of my daughter's life so many times. For those crumbs, I gave her cake. I think it has finally stopped. I will no longer rearrange my schedule to accommodate her and her desires. I am not tearing up my house and my things so she can have whatever. I truly have reached the point where she will not treat me as something she can walk all over, she will not talk to me with total disrespect, she will not .... You've found with Dude that when you walk away, he runs after you and becomes a bit of the son you want. Well, you did it at court and it worked, it is time to do it at home. The next time he wants to do something, give him YOUR schedule. Don't let him dictate when he will come or go. It really is okay to use your home to meet someone, provided he give you at least 30 minutes of visiting and that 30 minutes be civil. If he can't do that, then he should meet elsewhere -- preferably an open road on a cold, windy, wet day. If he wants a ride, he pays for the gas unless you truly happen to be going the same way. No respect in your home means he leaves it immediately. Maybe with enough practice, we'll both get this detachment with love thing right. We both love our kids and have done the very best we could to raise them. We really do deserve at least some respect for not killing them along the way. I know I am making my mantra "Do not make someone a priority to whom you are but an option." (Okay, I paraphrased a bit -- I'm a grammar nut.) [/QUOTE]
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