tiredmommy
Well-Known Member
As some of you may know, the daughter of my bff has bullied Duckie on multiple occasions over the last year. It has been difficult, of course, to keep Duckie away from A but I try to limit their time together and closely monitor when they are together. They will not be in the same classroom next fall which is a huge burden lifted for Duckie as it's hard to concentrate when she isn't sure if A is her friend that day or not.
I can't keep them totally separated because the have the same circle of friends and take swim class together but I'm doing what I can to limit their contact as familiarity really seems to breed contempt in this case. So they both attended a birthday on Sunday and my bff was helping our hospitalized friend's mother with the kids. I offered to drop A off after the party... which became a play date because I couldn't get out of it without risking the feelings of bff and A. I stayed on top of them and I know that A didn't bully Duckie. They had swim on Monday and bff asked me to take A to the park afterward and she'd be there in a few minutes after she packed a quick lunch for A. Bff doesn't normally like going to the park but there was a particular program going on.. it wasn't a big deal (?).
Then, Duckie and I show up today at the park for science club and bff and her kids are there. Bff told me yesterday that A has been invited to the same sleepover birthday party next weekend but told her mom (my bff) that she'll stay overnight only if "her best friend" Duckie stays over.
I'm starting to feel like Duckie is being pressured into being A's friend.
I can't keep them totally separated because the have the same circle of friends and take swim class together but I'm doing what I can to limit their contact as familiarity really seems to breed contempt in this case. So they both attended a birthday on Sunday and my bff was helping our hospitalized friend's mother with the kids. I offered to drop A off after the party... which became a play date because I couldn't get out of it without risking the feelings of bff and A. I stayed on top of them and I know that A didn't bully Duckie. They had swim on Monday and bff asked me to take A to the park afterward and she'd be there in a few minutes after she packed a quick lunch for A. Bff doesn't normally like going to the park but there was a particular program going on.. it wasn't a big deal (?).
Then, Duckie and I show up today at the park for science club and bff and her kids are there. Bff told me yesterday that A has been invited to the same sleepover birthday party next weekend but told her mom (my bff) that she'll stay overnight only if "her best friend" Duckie stays over.
I'm starting to feel like Duckie is being pressured into being A's friend.