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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 622293" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>Tl, I have read the same literature and the interventionist that we used also said that only 15% of people in rehab go on their own volition. Some people do see that they need help once they get the drugs out of their systems even when forced into treatment. That was my hope and dream when difficult child went to the 3 month inpatient treatment center. </p><p></p><p>However, I don't think that my difficult child ever really accepted the idea that she needed to live the rest of her life without drugs and alcohol. Once she left the treatment center she quickly sought out a doctor that would prescribe her xanax for her "severe anxiety disorder." I think that was the start of a slow downhill slide back to drugs and alcohol.</p><p></p><p>We have always rescued her before and saved her from feeling the real impact of her addiction. This time we are willing to let her truly live with the consequences of her actions. I think that Nancy is right . . . my difficult child still thinks she is pulling the strings and we will end up doing what she wants us to do. She even asked husband when she realized that we weren't going to pay the fee to have the boot removed if he realized how much more it would cost him to get the car out of impound after a month.</p><p></p><p>In her head, she still feels entitled to what we have and that we should fix the problems that she creates for herself and as long as we stay in contact, she sees that as a weakness to manipulate. For now, we need to keep a distance and let her figure this out on her own. She knows the names of rehabs that takes her insurance and they are just a phone call away. She even mentioned in one text that she will need detox first and she has already been to one in the area so she knows where to go.</p><p></p><p>I do appreciate your input. I wish there was one right answer for all of us. It would make this so much easier. For now, I am going to follow the advice of my therapist and the Families Anonymous group. Every last one of the parents said things got better when they stopped enabling.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 622293, member: 1967"] Tl, I have read the same literature and the interventionist that we used also said that only 15% of people in rehab go on their own volition. Some people do see that they need help once they get the drugs out of their systems even when forced into treatment. That was my hope and dream when difficult child went to the 3 month inpatient treatment center. However, I don't think that my difficult child ever really accepted the idea that she needed to live the rest of her life without drugs and alcohol. Once she left the treatment center she quickly sought out a doctor that would prescribe her xanax for her "severe anxiety disorder." I think that was the start of a slow downhill slide back to drugs and alcohol. We have always rescued her before and saved her from feeling the real impact of her addiction. This time we are willing to let her truly live with the consequences of her actions. I think that Nancy is right . . . my difficult child still thinks she is pulling the strings and we will end up doing what she wants us to do. She even asked husband when she realized that we weren't going to pay the fee to have the boot removed if he realized how much more it would cost him to get the car out of impound after a month. In her head, she still feels entitled to what we have and that we should fix the problems that she creates for herself and as long as we stay in contact, she sees that as a weakness to manipulate. For now, we need to keep a distance and let her figure this out on her own. She knows the names of rehabs that takes her insurance and they are just a phone call away. She even mentioned in one text that she will need detox first and she has already been to one in the area so she knows where to go. I do appreciate your input. I wish there was one right answer for all of us. It would make this so much easier. For now, I am going to follow the advice of my therapist and the Families Anonymous group. Every last one of the parents said things got better when they stopped enabling. [/QUOTE]
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