I just dont think it matters if someone is the best. I chose to be a stay at home mom and had many part time jobs in between. I worked hard at all I did, but didnt see driving myself nuts to be a #1 as a way to live. Not for me, at least. I like to smell the flowers one at a time and enjoy them. Being the fastest, hardest driving and maybe therefore best at anything is not a goal of mine. Never was. I try hard but I wont let go of that enjoyment of the simple, smaller, nicer things in life for any job.
I have certain places I like to eat and some not so much. All of us have our own preferences. In my case I like a cozy warm atmosphere and if a place is too busy or expensive I wont be drawn to it. It has luttle to do with servers. I always get my meals.
If I stop going simewhere I dont think that the establishment cares. I am one person. They can afford to lose me.
I do not look down at slower learners nor do I look up to people in Mensa. I judge people by their hearts. I guess thats a form of judging. I care more about the kindness of a heart than anything else. I am not so brilliant, perfect, or successful in school or work to look down at somebody else.
I once stressed about things like that. I wasnt very happy. I like to take life one day at a time, smile at others, drink coffee, pet my dogs and enjoy nature. I do not want to spend my time fighting and stressed or worrying about if others are working up to my standards. Or if I am enough or have enough for others to admire. Or if they have enough for me to admire. The truth is, I dont give a fug about what others have or do. Its not my life. Its not my business.
So again we are very different and we are not better or worse than one another.
I am VERY spiritual (which is not the same at all as religious) but my values are guided more by the wisdom I find, say, in Buddha than in the rat race....I dont look at myself or others as better or worse, smarter or not as smart. I think animals are equal to people in importance. I dont oay attention much to things I cant control. I have a gratitude journal and focus on the positive.
And I am very happy and content. Only one person I can control in this lifetime and that is me. I am telling my story, Pink, but I would never try to change you even if I could.
You are amazing, funny and we need diversity of thought or life would be very boring. I am honored to know you