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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 393863" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>The amount given for clothing is pitifully small. I spoke in depth with the therapist when difficult child was in the psychiatric hospital 7 yrs ago and one of the things we discussed was his sense of entitlement. I was used to things like periodically getting clothes for him as I found sales, etc... They had me NOT do that, even had me NOT replace his gym shoes (only shoes he would wear) when they "fell apart" because they saw him purposely tearing them up - pulling the soles off of the shoe part, even sneaking scissors into his lap to cut them up. They gave him some duct tape and had him patch them - to his fury. The clothing amount was $50 twice a year - to shop they took the kids to either goodwill or salvation army and had them shop there for everything but underwear. They still had to get underwear out of the $50 though. It was a real eye opener for him to not have mom just replace what he destroyed. it really made a BIG difference, but it was HARD to find all the clothes he needed out of that $$.</p><p> </p><p>I am sure the amount is even less now. I also think it may be like SSDI where you have to track the money and be able to prove that you spent it on stuff for the child during periodic reviews. </p><p> </p><p>Foster parenting is certainly a labor of love, and NOT a plan to make money or support a family, which is kinda wrong when you consider how many appointments some foster kids end up needing. </p><p> </p><p>Has your husband considered substitute teaching? You usually do NOT need a teaching certificate, though it may limit the # of days per school year that you can teach. Most places are desperate for teachers and subs, so the requirements are not as strenuous as they are for regular teachers. It allows you to have a lot of flexibility in your schedule as you are not locked in to a set schedule for the most part.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 393863, member: 1233"] The amount given for clothing is pitifully small. I spoke in depth with the therapist when difficult child was in the psychiatric hospital 7 yrs ago and one of the things we discussed was his sense of entitlement. I was used to things like periodically getting clothes for him as I found sales, etc... They had me NOT do that, even had me NOT replace his gym shoes (only shoes he would wear) when they "fell apart" because they saw him purposely tearing them up - pulling the soles off of the shoe part, even sneaking scissors into his lap to cut them up. They gave him some duct tape and had him patch them - to his fury. The clothing amount was $50 twice a year - to shop they took the kids to either goodwill or salvation army and had them shop there for everything but underwear. They still had to get underwear out of the $50 though. It was a real eye opener for him to not have mom just replace what he destroyed. it really made a BIG difference, but it was HARD to find all the clothes he needed out of that $$. I am sure the amount is even less now. I also think it may be like SSDI where you have to track the money and be able to prove that you spent it on stuff for the child during periodic reviews. Foster parenting is certainly a labor of love, and NOT a plan to make money or support a family, which is kinda wrong when you consider how many appointments some foster kids end up needing. Has your husband considered substitute teaching? You usually do NOT need a teaching certificate, though it may limit the # of days per school year that you can teach. Most places are desperate for teachers and subs, so the requirements are not as strenuous as they are for regular teachers. It allows you to have a lot of flexibility in your schedule as you are not locked in to a set schedule for the most part. [/QUOTE]
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