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<blockquote data-quote="Jena" data-source="post: 393966" data-attributes="member: 4514"><p>hey</p><p> </p><p>your hearts in the right place as always, as is your thought of financial. yet from seeing it first hand when i worked in in home crisis i had a family with a huge problem difficult child wow this kid was rough, yet he had a terrible background they adopted him. let's just say she had about 2 foster kids. foster kids come with-their own baggage and like anything else you get what you get i do not believe you can request certain problemed difficult child kids. their all going to be sweet at heart difficult child kids with a ton of problems and yes giving them love and warmth shelter and food is a great thing yet u have to think of carefully would manster be able to handle attaching and detacthing constantly because that's what he'd have to do. more importantly how would you a sensitive person who is caring and wants to love a kid handle loving a child for x amt of time and than having to say good bye?</p><p> </p><p>some of these beautiful foster kids come from situations that neither you or i could even begin to comprehend and yes they will act out, share with you in time if they feel the ounce of safety from you guys and it's beyond the gfgism that we're accustomed to handling. what i've seen is alot of kids being seriously abused either physically or emotionally or sexually and its heartbreaking on multiple levels and thing is you want to keep them.</p><p> </p><p>i met a beautiful sweet young girl going back two years ago at my clients home. she was 3 and a half was adorable, bright and just a sweet kid. she sat in our entire session two times i was there. she'd sit on my lap, play with my necklace and ring while i worked with their difficult child and his parents.</p><p> </p><p>i than asked one day how long will you have her? their question was shocking another 2 mos. her father is fighting for custody and winning. oh great i thought. next question why is her belly so swollen like that is she sick? they said no it's from the sexual abuse her father did onto her.</p><p> </p><p>let's just say i sat in my truck almost throwing up and soon after that i left the job. was too much for me to know i couldn't help her she wasn't in my realm of visits besides sitting on my lap and that within the next several mos she'd be back with her abuser.</p><p> </p><p>sorry that was a strong story yet your an awesome person and i dont' want you to get caught up in a situation that is hard emotionally on all of you. if you can handle all of that than i say go for it, those kids need a safe place. yet if you can't dont' hurt yourself, manster and husband.</p><p> </p><p>((hugs))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jena, post: 393966, member: 4514"] hey your hearts in the right place as always, as is your thought of financial. yet from seeing it first hand when i worked in in home crisis i had a family with a huge problem difficult child wow this kid was rough, yet he had a terrible background they adopted him. let's just say she had about 2 foster kids. foster kids come with-their own baggage and like anything else you get what you get i do not believe you can request certain problemed difficult child kids. their all going to be sweet at heart difficult child kids with a ton of problems and yes giving them love and warmth shelter and food is a great thing yet u have to think of carefully would manster be able to handle attaching and detacthing constantly because that's what he'd have to do. more importantly how would you a sensitive person who is caring and wants to love a kid handle loving a child for x amt of time and than having to say good bye? some of these beautiful foster kids come from situations that neither you or i could even begin to comprehend and yes they will act out, share with you in time if they feel the ounce of safety from you guys and it's beyond the gfgism that we're accustomed to handling. what i've seen is alot of kids being seriously abused either physically or emotionally or sexually and its heartbreaking on multiple levels and thing is you want to keep them. i met a beautiful sweet young girl going back two years ago at my clients home. she was 3 and a half was adorable, bright and just a sweet kid. she sat in our entire session two times i was there. she'd sit on my lap, play with my necklace and ring while i worked with their difficult child and his parents. i than asked one day how long will you have her? their question was shocking another 2 mos. her father is fighting for custody and winning. oh great i thought. next question why is her belly so swollen like that is she sick? they said no it's from the sexual abuse her father did onto her. let's just say i sat in my truck almost throwing up and soon after that i left the job. was too much for me to know i couldn't help her she wasn't in my realm of visits besides sitting on my lap and that within the next several mos she'd be back with her abuser. sorry that was a strong story yet your an awesome person and i dont' want you to get caught up in a situation that is hard emotionally on all of you. if you can handle all of that than i say go for it, those kids need a safe place. yet if you can't dont' hurt yourself, manster and husband. ((hugs)) [/QUOTE]
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