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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 399313" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>The child we adopted didn't really care that he wasn't in our home anymore. He had been thrown around so much in his eleven years that he had lost the ability to attach to anybody. To him we were just another stop on the train ride. j</p><p>I worry about your child's threat to rape his sister. I believe it could happen. There are three signs of an impending psychopath in children: fascination with fire (starts small fires), pooping and peeing inappropriately, and harming animals. All three are a huge red flag. Our child did all three, although we didn't know the half of it until he left and our kids finally told all (it took a lot of therapy and a long time). </p><p>You'll never be able to sue for damages. We tried. Whether or not they give you the right information (and they usually hold back) they are bigger than you...the government. I would just find another place f or him and move on before somebody REALLY gets hurt. If he could kill 50 animals, he could hurt your other children. Please don't take the chance. He may have already done things to any child in your home who is younger than him and they may be too afraid of him to tell you, even if you have spoken to them about "funny touching" and how if they told you, you'd believe them. When a child who harms them is living in the house, that child seems larger than God to them. Our child used to threaten to burn the house down with all of us in it so the younger kids were terrified. </p><p>I always warn people with young children never to adopt older kids. Our social worker who placed this child with us stayed overnight at our house and we got to know her well. She told us that kids in foster care have most likely been sexually abused (her figure was 99.9% of the time). Under those conditions, they are likely to act out on other kids when they hit their teens. It's sad...we adopted our son to help a hard-to-place child. But it wasn't worth the harm to the other kids. Sometimes it's best to just let go and realize that you did the best you could. Good luck and...I understand.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 399313, member: 1550"] The child we adopted didn't really care that he wasn't in our home anymore. He had been thrown around so much in his eleven years that he had lost the ability to attach to anybody. To him we were just another stop on the train ride. j I worry about your child's threat to rape his sister. I believe it could happen. There are three signs of an impending psychopath in children: fascination with fire (starts small fires), pooping and peeing inappropriately, and harming animals. All three are a huge red flag. Our child did all three, although we didn't know the half of it until he left and our kids finally told all (it took a lot of therapy and a long time). You'll never be able to sue for damages. We tried. Whether or not they give you the right information (and they usually hold back) they are bigger than you...the government. I would just find another place f or him and move on before somebody REALLY gets hurt. If he could kill 50 animals, he could hurt your other children. Please don't take the chance. He may have already done things to any child in your home who is younger than him and they may be too afraid of him to tell you, even if you have spoken to them about "funny touching" and how if they told you, you'd believe them. When a child who harms them is living in the house, that child seems larger than God to them. Our child used to threaten to burn the house down with all of us in it so the younger kids were terrified. I always warn people with young children never to adopt older kids. Our social worker who placed this child with us stayed overnight at our house and we got to know her well. She told us that kids in foster care have most likely been sexually abused (her figure was 99.9% of the time). Under those conditions, they are likely to act out on other kids when they hit their teens. It's sad...we adopted our son to help a hard-to-place child. But it wasn't worth the harm to the other kids. Sometimes it's best to just let go and realize that you did the best you could. Good luck and...I understand. [/QUOTE]
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