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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 562618" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>It's hard to ride that thin line of preparing for the worst but not having it take over our lives.......the way I deal with it is to say to myself, right now, in this moment, everything is OK. I try not to put myself in the future and freak out about what may happen, even though, I may be right, it's happened every time before, and I'm steeling myself for the onslaught of yet another drama. For me, that started to feel as if all the moments of my life were contaminated with difficult child insanity.................so every time my mind went into that scary, fearful place of worry about what might happen, I deliberately switched gears, told myself, <em>right now, in this moment, everything is fine.</em> I did it over and over and over again, and over time my mind stopped going into that "what if" place...........(Well, maybe it goes there on occasion, but not very often)..............for me it was training my brain to stop making those connections.............afterall, we were slowly trained into being fearful all the time, we can slowly re train ourselves to be back to being peaceful. (There is much new evidence about how the brains neurotransmitters get into a "loop" where the thoughts continue to go, like a 'fear trap', but science teaches that you can forge new pathways by stopping those fear thoughts and moving your thoughts into a new direction. Yes, it takes effort and commitment, but it can be done.) Those fear thoughts are like a runaway train, but you can pull back and stop them. Worry becomes a way of life after awhile and keeps us stuck in fear.............</p><p></p><p>I hope you can enjoy some of your day............he is safe at the shelter, fed, warm, he's OK and you have people in place to help him. You've done what you can, do everything you can to place him in a bubble out of your mind and take a breath and enjoy your weekend. I know it's hard, it's one moment to the next.............hang in there..............hugs to you............</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 562618, member: 13542"] It's hard to ride that thin line of preparing for the worst but not having it take over our lives.......the way I deal with it is to say to myself, right now, in this moment, everything is OK. I try not to put myself in the future and freak out about what may happen, even though, I may be right, it's happened every time before, and I'm steeling myself for the onslaught of yet another drama. For me, that started to feel as if all the moments of my life were contaminated with difficult child insanity.................so every time my mind went into that scary, fearful place of worry about what might happen, I deliberately switched gears, told myself, [I]right now, in this moment, everything is fine.[/I] I did it over and over and over again, and over time my mind stopped going into that "what if" place...........(Well, maybe it goes there on occasion, but not very often)..............for me it was training my brain to stop making those connections.............afterall, we were slowly trained into being fearful all the time, we can slowly re train ourselves to be back to being peaceful. (There is much new evidence about how the brains neurotransmitters get into a "loop" where the thoughts continue to go, like a 'fear trap', but science teaches that you can forge new pathways by stopping those fear thoughts and moving your thoughts into a new direction. Yes, it takes effort and commitment, but it can be done.) Those fear thoughts are like a runaway train, but you can pull back and stop them. Worry becomes a way of life after awhile and keeps us stuck in fear............. I hope you can enjoy some of your day............he is safe at the shelter, fed, warm, he's OK and you have people in place to help him. You've done what you can, do everything you can to place him in a bubble out of your mind and take a breath and enjoy your weekend. I know it's hard, it's one moment to the next.............hang in there..............hugs to you............ [/QUOTE]
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