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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 214435" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>CD is a scary diagnosis but it is not hopeless. I was told my child had CD when she was 12. She certainly fit a lot of the criteria -- stealing, lying, cruelty to others when she didn't get her way, etc. However, the reality was attachment disorder (which is far worse in my opinion), depression, mild ADHD and adolescence. She really could not take any medications so therapy was the only real answer for her. Ultimately, I sent her to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) across the country from me for 16 months.</p><p> </p><p>Today, she is becoming a remarkable young woman. Sadly, she did drop out of high school but she is now talking about continuing her education. It's only talk at this point, but at least it is being considered. She no longer steals. She only lies to keep from hurting someone's feelings. There is no more violence towards anyone or anything. She quit running away. She is now sharing a very nice apartment with an okay roommate. She has been working as a waitress for the past year and is getting a very steady following of customers.</p><p> </p><p>It wasn't an easy path and I made many mistakes along the way. Maybe I got lucky but I think it was more than that. I didn't give up on her. I fought tooth and nail to get her the help she needed. I listened, I read, I jumped through every hoop possible. Even more importantly, she grew up and decided she wanted a different life than the one she was trying out. It ultimately took letting her do what she wanted and letting her hit her bottom -- being homeless for a few days after being threatened while working at a carnival.</p><p> </p><p>Other parents here even have worse stories of drug addiction, homelessness, jail, etc. Some of us have had successes. Some not. </p><p> </p><p>Getting a CD diagnosis is frightening (whether accurate or not) but he's only 12. There will be many battles to be fought before he becomes a man. You may be forced to let him find his bottom and then be there to help him up. It won't be easy and there will be times that you will truly hate your son and he will hate you 10 times more but there will always be love there, too.</p><p> </p><p>The point is there is hope.</p><p> </p><p>One thing I would suggest you do right away is read a copy of The Explosive Child. It is a great book to help you understand some of his thought processes.</p><p> </p><p>And, for now, many hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 214435, member: 3626"] CD is a scary diagnosis but it is not hopeless. I was told my child had CD when she was 12. She certainly fit a lot of the criteria -- stealing, lying, cruelty to others when she didn't get her way, etc. However, the reality was attachment disorder (which is far worse in my opinion), depression, mild ADHD and adolescence. She really could not take any medications so therapy was the only real answer for her. Ultimately, I sent her to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) across the country from me for 16 months. Today, she is becoming a remarkable young woman. Sadly, she did drop out of high school but she is now talking about continuing her education. It's only talk at this point, but at least it is being considered. She no longer steals. She only lies to keep from hurting someone's feelings. There is no more violence towards anyone or anything. She quit running away. She is now sharing a very nice apartment with an okay roommate. She has been working as a waitress for the past year and is getting a very steady following of customers. It wasn't an easy path and I made many mistakes along the way. Maybe I got lucky but I think it was more than that. I didn't give up on her. I fought tooth and nail to get her the help she needed. I listened, I read, I jumped through every hoop possible. Even more importantly, she grew up and decided she wanted a different life than the one she was trying out. It ultimately took letting her do what she wanted and letting her hit her bottom -- being homeless for a few days after being threatened while working at a carnival. Other parents here even have worse stories of drug addiction, homelessness, jail, etc. Some of us have had successes. Some not. Getting a CD diagnosis is frightening (whether accurate or not) but he's only 12. There will be many battles to be fought before he becomes a man. You may be forced to let him find his bottom and then be there to help him up. It won't be easy and there will be times that you will truly hate your son and he will hate you 10 times more but there will always be love there, too. The point is there is hope. One thing I would suggest you do right away is read a copy of The Explosive Child. It is a great book to help you understand some of his thought processes. And, for now, many hugs. [/QUOTE]
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