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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 234627" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Welcome Gary. I've never experienced that exact problem but I have gone through a divorce and I have seen the children react differently to the change. Was your son's personality generally the same prior to the past five years? Has the "sensitivity" heightened recently to the point of concern? Is his interaction with peers and others away from school the same as it used to be? Does he display the tendency to cry in front of others or only with you?</p><p> </p><p>Lots of questions, I know. Based on my experiences with children who tried not to show their sense of loss after divorce <strong>and</strong> my experiences raising a grandson who's Mom is in town but not reliable, I would guess that he may be trying to "**** it up" but is silently suffering the loss of his Mom...even if she is/was lousy. </p><p> </p><p>by the way, is it possible that he feels you are using the therapists to get an answer to your question "what is wrong?" If kids don't trust that their feelings will be held in confidence, they usually don't open up with the professionals. Often the goal is to protect the parents feelings.</p><p> </p><p>One other question comes to mind before I go back to bed. Does he have any other adult relative or close family friend? What do they think? DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 234627, member: 35"] Welcome Gary. I've never experienced that exact problem but I have gone through a divorce and I have seen the children react differently to the change. Was your son's personality generally the same prior to the past five years? Has the "sensitivity" heightened recently to the point of concern? Is his interaction with peers and others away from school the same as it used to be? Does he display the tendency to cry in front of others or only with you? Lots of questions, I know. Based on my experiences with children who tried not to show their sense of loss after divorce [B]and[/B] my experiences raising a grandson who's Mom is in town but not reliable, I would guess that he may be trying to "**** it up" but is silently suffering the loss of his Mom...even if she is/was lousy. by the way, is it possible that he feels you are using the therapists to get an answer to your question "what is wrong?" If kids don't trust that their feelings will be held in confidence, they usually don't open up with the professionals. Often the goal is to protect the parents feelings. One other question comes to mind before I go back to bed. Does he have any other adult relative or close family friend? What do they think? DDD [/QUOTE]
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