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thoughts anyone??? ideas for when he is in full refusal mode....
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<blockquote data-quote="TeDo" data-source="post: 515557"><p><Like> Love that sentiment Malika!! I think you are completely correct on ALL counts. 1 stressed, more-rigid-than usual person +1 stressed, rigid, impulsive person = Minor Disaster.</p><p></p><p>Yes, Buddy, my kids do go places without me watching. I realize that's where we are so different and it's reading about your struggles with this that make me remember how fortunate I am. The only times difficult child 1 has EVER just taken off because he didn't want to face consequences was when he was on the *bad* medications. When he's "in his right mind" he KNOWS better than to try that. He learned that lesson the hard way a long time ago. The problem we ran into when I tried whatamess' suggestion was that difficult child 1 began trying to negotiate ALL the time after we'd agreed on something. That's why we have a "no negotiating after the fact" rule now. We decide everything before the fact. If I give an inch difficult child 1 will take a mile OR two. If he tries to negotiate, I simply remind him WE already did and that by complying with our original plan, he gets to keep his freedom tomorrow. If not, he looses that privilege but STILL has to come in NOW anyway.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TeDo, post: 515557"] <Like> Love that sentiment Malika!! I think you are completely correct on ALL counts. 1 stressed, more-rigid-than usual person +1 stressed, rigid, impulsive person = Minor Disaster. Yes, Buddy, my kids do go places without me watching. I realize that's where we are so different and it's reading about your struggles with this that make me remember how fortunate I am. The only times difficult child 1 has EVER just taken off because he didn't want to face consequences was when he was on the *bad* medications. When he's "in his right mind" he KNOWS better than to try that. He learned that lesson the hard way a long time ago. The problem we ran into when I tried whatamess' suggestion was that difficult child 1 began trying to negotiate ALL the time after we'd agreed on something. That's why we have a "no negotiating after the fact" rule now. We decide everything before the fact. If I give an inch difficult child 1 will take a mile OR two. If he tries to negotiate, I simply remind him WE already did and that by complying with our original plan, he gets to keep his freedom tomorrow. If not, he looses that privilege but STILL has to come in NOW anyway. [/QUOTE]
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