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thoughts anyone??? ideas for when he is in full refusal mode....
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<blockquote data-quote="llamafarm" data-source="post: 516151" data-attributes="member: 14085"><p>Sometimes you have got to give in to give yourself a break. Make it sound like renegotiation, but let yourself off the hook. Outside time is so difficult when you have to be supervising your child who should be old enough to navigate playing with others alone! I find that the most frustrating and I find it even more frustrating when it is that time of the month! I have a feeling my difficult child can sense my bit of insanity and tries to take advantage at that time. I often don't realize it until after the fact. Flexibility is so much harder when we are hormonal. Disrespect seems so much more insulting as well. As one of the teachers in a parenting class told me (one of the <em>FEW</em> nuggets I have chosen to remember), if you don't have the energy to fight it to the end, let him get off easy that time. This way he feels he has worked through things and not bullied or argued or fought and won the fight. Instead you know you just let it go. I am not sure how you would be able to apply that to his throwing rocks and then his expecting this to be acceptable, but it does seem like you have had him pay some sort of consequence at this point. Let yourself off the hook, make it seem reasonable and find a way to let him out again in some limited way. I feel for you, and I am thinking of you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="llamafarm, post: 516151, member: 14085"] Sometimes you have got to give in to give yourself a break. Make it sound like renegotiation, but let yourself off the hook. Outside time is so difficult when you have to be supervising your child who should be old enough to navigate playing with others alone! I find that the most frustrating and I find it even more frustrating when it is that time of the month! I have a feeling my difficult child can sense my bit of insanity and tries to take advantage at that time. I often don't realize it until after the fact. Flexibility is so much harder when we are hormonal. Disrespect seems so much more insulting as well. As one of the teachers in a parenting class told me (one of the [I]FEW[/I] nuggets I have chosen to remember), if you don't have the energy to fight it to the end, let him get off easy that time. This way he feels he has worked through things and not bullied or argued or fought and won the fight. Instead you know you just let it go. I am not sure how you would be able to apply that to his throwing rocks and then his expecting this to be acceptable, but it does seem like you have had him pay some sort of consequence at this point. Let yourself off the hook, make it seem reasonable and find a way to let him out again in some limited way. I feel for you, and I am thinking of you. [/QUOTE]
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