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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 287471" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Well, I never did have any spare money, not with either of my two husbands <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/tongue.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":tongue:" title="tongue :tongue:" data-shortname=":tongue:" />. Part of that is my disability, which makes it hard if not impossible for me to work. I can learn fine. I just can't put anything into practice, not even assembley work, cleaning houses or flipping burgers. I simply lack any ability to multi-task or figure out how to use equipment correctly--this includes equipment as basic as sweeping the floor without holding the broom backwards. A last-week neurology appointment (one of about one hundred) pretty much told me what I'd already known--that this problem is from birth and that it's just like people who can't carry a tune, only I can't figure out how to do anything visually and I ain't gonna change. One paycheck never goes far unless your hub is a doctor and neither of mine were. This is what I learned even though I am from an affluent family who values college educations and looks down at people like me who can't get one and who struggle from paycheck-to-paycheck. Take what you like, leave the rest.</p><p></p><p>Out of necessity, I have had to learn about what is important in life. My family wouldn't have lent me five bucks to save my life--they felt I was lazy, so I had to learn to live without money. I found out that there are soooooooooo many things more important than money that I laugh that I once cared about having an old car or renting our home instead of owning it. Good heavens, the most important things in life are FREE. The love you receive and give to others is free. The beauty of life is free--everything around you that is most beautiful is free. Home cooking trumps Subway every time. Being there for a child or friend is so much more important than buying the child new furniture (in my opinion). Learning new things is free. Taking a walk is free. Reading at the library is free. In short, long ago I learned to value the simple things in life and to sort of smile sadly at those who worry about not having a nice car or big house or new clothes. </p><p></p><p>Anyone who values money too much is setting himself or herself up for disappointment. There is no guarantee that it will always be there, and many are learning that now. And those who cling to those values that money is important will not be happy and there is nothing that will make your hub happy if he can't get past that. But YOU can be happy. Hey, one of my kids got married suddenly and I didn't have any money for a gift. We gave him one when we got our tax refund. His father has money (he didn't when we were married, but he inherited from his mom). He got $5,000 from his father, however who do you think the kids call the most often and cling to the most? Me, the poor one.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, if you're religious your spirituality or faith is also free. Try to remember that the best things in life are and always have been free. This is a lesson I learned very early and I feel sorry for even some people in my family who can't understand that. They are so miserable now that the economy is sliding!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 287471, member: 1550"] Well, I never did have any spare money, not with either of my two husbands :raspberry-tounge:. Part of that is my disability, which makes it hard if not impossible for me to work. I can learn fine. I just can't put anything into practice, not even assembley work, cleaning houses or flipping burgers. I simply lack any ability to multi-task or figure out how to use equipment correctly--this includes equipment as basic as sweeping the floor without holding the broom backwards. A last-week neurology appointment (one of about one hundred) pretty much told me what I'd already known--that this problem is from birth and that it's just like people who can't carry a tune, only I can't figure out how to do anything visually and I ain't gonna change. One paycheck never goes far unless your hub is a doctor and neither of mine were. This is what I learned even though I am from an affluent family who values college educations and looks down at people like me who can't get one and who struggle from paycheck-to-paycheck. Take what you like, leave the rest. Out of necessity, I have had to learn about what is important in life. My family wouldn't have lent me five bucks to save my life--they felt I was lazy, so I had to learn to live without money. I found out that there are soooooooooo many things more important than money that I laugh that I once cared about having an old car or renting our home instead of owning it. Good heavens, the most important things in life are FREE. The love you receive and give to others is free. The beauty of life is free--everything around you that is most beautiful is free. Home cooking trumps Subway every time. Being there for a child or friend is so much more important than buying the child new furniture (in my opinion). Learning new things is free. Taking a walk is free. Reading at the library is free. In short, long ago I learned to value the simple things in life and to sort of smile sadly at those who worry about not having a nice car or big house or new clothes. Anyone who values money too much is setting himself or herself up for disappointment. There is no guarantee that it will always be there, and many are learning that now. And those who cling to those values that money is important will not be happy and there is nothing that will make your hub happy if he can't get past that. But YOU can be happy. Hey, one of my kids got married suddenly and I didn't have any money for a gift. We gave him one when we got our tax refund. His father has money (he didn't when we were married, but he inherited from his mom). He got $5,000 from his father, however who do you think the kids call the most often and cling to the most? Me, the poor one. Anyway, if you're religious your spirituality or faith is also free. Try to remember that the best things in life are and always have been free. This is a lesson I learned very early and I feel sorry for even some people in my family who can't understand that. They are so miserable now that the economy is sliding! [/QUOTE]
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