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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 246378" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>This definitely is something they should have made you aware of when difficult child started this school. There should be documentation regarding which teachers have had proper training (and it should atleast have yearly refreasher courses). The school should have discussed your willingness to use such discipline and under what circumstances. I would think you would have to sign a release before a restraint can be used unless under extreme emergencies to keep himself and staff and other students safe. I would have let him leave the room and "wander the hall" this one time until a meeting was called with you and difficult child to discuss the acceptable alternatives.</p><p> </p><p>I would also have mixed feelings since the end result does sound like a positive redirection for difficult child and he felt that it was for a good thing and not having staff being judgemental. </p><p> </p><p>You did handle it very well in looking for the facts before getting too angry. Does Tigger know you are upset with the staff? I would also talk to him about how he thinks things could have gone differently. Also, if you truley believe the staff did this for Tigger's best interest, let him know that they were trying to help and that you want him and the staff to find an easier answer than restraining. He needs to know that EVERYONE is doing their best for him.</p><p> </p><p>Now maybe staff will be more open to listening to your knowledge about your son. I think many times people don't really understand why we set certain boundaries up for our kids until something like this happens. Have another sit down with everyone involved and go over your expectations again.</p><p> </p><p>I hope tomorrow is better. It is a big positive that difficult child felt that they were helping him even if they choose a not so wise way of doing so.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 246378, member: 5096"] This definitely is something they should have made you aware of when difficult child started this school. There should be documentation regarding which teachers have had proper training (and it should atleast have yearly refreasher courses). The school should have discussed your willingness to use such discipline and under what circumstances. I would think you would have to sign a release before a restraint can be used unless under extreme emergencies to keep himself and staff and other students safe. I would have let him leave the room and "wander the hall" this one time until a meeting was called with you and difficult child to discuss the acceptable alternatives. I would also have mixed feelings since the end result does sound like a positive redirection for difficult child and he felt that it was for a good thing and not having staff being judgemental. You did handle it very well in looking for the facts before getting too angry. Does Tigger know you are upset with the staff? I would also talk to him about how he thinks things could have gone differently. Also, if you truley believe the staff did this for Tigger's best interest, let him know that they were trying to help and that you want him and the staff to find an easier answer than restraining. He needs to know that EVERYONE is doing their best for him. Now maybe staff will be more open to listening to your knowledge about your son. I think many times people don't really understand why we set certain boundaries up for our kids until something like this happens. Have another sit down with everyone involved and go over your expectations again. I hope tomorrow is better. It is a big positive that difficult child felt that they were helping him even if they choose a not so wise way of doing so. [/QUOTE]
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